Youth Counselling: To bring the best of your child
Adolescence is a very frustrating and confusing period in one’s life. Some days you are asked to behave like adults and the other days you are asked not to interfere in the matters of adults.
As it is quoted by Nelson Mandela,
“The youth of today are the leaders of tomorrow.”
Youth is the period of time when you either create a life according to your dreams or destroy your life under the influence of others.
It is a very crucial period when everything is new and the way the child is molded shall remain with him forever.
To state an example from my experiences, “There was one well-to-do family, who loved their child very much. However, they had no idea what the future held for them.
One day, after coming from college, their child was very irritated. When the parents asked him about what happened to his mood (because the child never behaved like that before), the child didn’t reply.
Instead, he got angry and left the room. The child started remaining in the same mood for many days. The parents noticed for a few days and decided to check what has been concerning their child.
When the parents tried to inquire about the situation, they found that the child was taking some sort of drugs under the influence of his college friends.
The parents were stunned to know how their child and his friends have been destroying their lives under the influence of drugs.
They decided to contact the parents of other children and decided to talk to the college authorities. The college was unaware of the act and increased strictness in the premises.
The child got even more anguish and started behaving even more rudely. His parents decided to take professional help as they thought the situation was no more in their hands.
They consulted many doctors and took medicines, but nothing helped the child because it was in his mind. The doctor then asked them to get the child counseled from me.
As soon as the child’s counseling began, colossal changes were seen in his behavior. Counseling helped him vent out his fears and thoughts. It helped the child to learn about himself and think more clearly. The mental condition of the child was improved tremendously.
Similarly, a girl decided to take youth counselling from us when she failed the entrance examination of the architecture course twice. She lost all the hope and thought maybe she will never get admitted to her dream college.
As her counseling began she started learning more about herself and her goals. She learned to overcome many of her complexes, she retained her focus, she started building her confidence, and by the end of her counseling program, she had changed and transformed herself completely.
As a result, she worked so hard as an architect that she represented India in Rio as the best architect.
This is how counseling for youth has changed the lives of young people. Youth needs counseling more than anyone.
What is youth counselling?
Youth counselling is a structured therapy where a child is supervised and interacted with. The counselor interacts with them, listens to their problems, and assists them in resolving their issues. Also, a youth counselor ensures that the child feels satisfied and happy both physically and emotionally. All types of issues bothering your young one can be resolved by the counselor.
Why do you need youth counselling?
Most of the time, we do not understand what our young one is going through. In most cases, the teenager will not even feel comfortable discussing their issues with you. However, this does not mean they are not facing troubles.
Some problems that your young one might be facing are:
- Facing depression
The period of adolescence is quite confusing and demanding. Youth feel lost most of the time as they have to choose the right career for them, score good marks, maintain friendships, or leave their homes for college. All these things when they hit the youth together, feel so much burden on them which leads to thoughts of hopelessness. All this causes depression in young people as they start feeling lonely and hopeless.
- Adjusting to feelings
The youth period turns out to be one of the most emotional phases of life. Teenagers learn about feelings and start experiencing them. Many times they fall for someone who might not feel the same way. This leads to heartbreak and they do not know who to talk to. It may seem quite normal to others, but such broken feelings can have adverse effects on a child.
- Family issues
Youngsters as they grow older find it hard to adjust in the family. They start demanding freedom which when not given, they turn aggressive. They feel no one understands them and that their family always opposes them. Such thoughts cause hatred in their hearts for their own family members.
- Career confusion
As a child enters teenage years, they are asked and expected to choose the career for them. However, 80% of teenagers have no idea what they want at that age and end up taking the wrong decision. This further demotivates them as they feel they have failed in life. The decision of choosing the right career causes confusion and anxiety in youngsters.
- Unrealistic hopes
It is a period of age where youngsters create their own virtual world in their minds. They set their expectations high and goals even higher. As they hit adolescence they face reality which is far from what they expected. This causes a dilemma and feelings of broken dreams in them. They do not understand how to adjust to reality which further causes depression.
- Hormonal imbalance
When it comes to adolescence, it is all a play of hormones. The hormonal changes are what cause most of the troubles during this age. Teenagers do not understand it as they find it delusional. However, it becomes very important to mold the youth into a good person during this age.
All these are some problems and issues faced by young people. To overcome such feelings, conflicts, and changes it becomes very critical to undertake to counsel for youth.
How can youth counselling help?
Youth counselling can help young people in numerous ways. From improving relations to getting career guidance everything can be solved with youth counselling.
Some areas where youth counselling can help you are:
- Build ecstatic relationships
Teenagers find it very difficult to form lasting relations with people. From teachers, parents, siblings, and friends, it seems they like none of them. It is also because of the feelings of jealousy and hatred that grow in them. Youth counselling can help them overcome such feelings and build strong relationships with people. It sets them on the path of love and care.
- Helps bring a child out of depression
Youth is known to be the most depressed among all people. Youngsters have anxiety issues and life-dilemmas which bother them to a level that causes depression. They feel lonely and hopeless most of the time. If provided the right counseling, youngsters can be taken out of their depression easily. Youth counselling helps children with ongoing depression or children who might be on the path of getting depressed.
- Improves confidence
With everything around changing, youngsters are unable to gather enough confidence to face or talk to people. Sometimes they may not even have the confidence to do basic activities. Youth counselling can help teenagers gain confidence. The counselor helps clients improve their confidence levels by solving the self-esteem issues they might be facing.
- You will get a clear vision of life
As already discussed, the youth sets unrealistic goals and aspirations for themselves. When they are not fulfilled they feel broken and hopeless. It becomes very crucial to give the youth a clear vision of life. They are the creators of their life and they have to be directed to the right path. Counseling can provide them the right guidance and clarity of life that they seek.
- Helps you deal with family issues
Most of the time, young people feel their family members do not love them or do not understand them. In such cases, they might want to talk but not to the family members. They seek help outside of the family. Here is where youth counselling can help them. A counselor will not only listen to their problems but will also guide them to form healthy relations with family. A counseled kid will then happily live with the family.
- Reduces anxiety issues
It is never too late to get your child counseled. Even if you feel your child has conditions that are difficult to control, counseling can help. Anxiety is something 8 out of 10 teenagers experience. The age is frustrating, demanding, and confusing, making youngsters anxious always. Youth counselling can help teenagers to reduce their anxiety levels and hormones. A counselor makes sure the child never feels anxious in difficult situations.
- Helps choose the right career
Counseling is something that helps a person learn about themselves. Adolescents whose major concern in life is choosing the right career path can benefit a lot from youth counselling. It will help you learn about yourself, your interests, likes, and dislikes, etc. It will further help you choose a career for yourself according to your interests.
How to know if you need youth counselling?
Are you unsure about your problems? Many times we find it difficult to know if we really need counseling or not.
Here we have a checklist of some factors which can help you analyze if you need counseling or not.
- Do you feel unhappy, moody, or irritated for the most of the day?
- Do you feel lonely and numb at times?
- Have you lost interest in the activities you cherished earlier?
- Have your eating habits changed?
- Do you feel a lack of motivation?
- Do self-harming thoughts arise in your mind?
- Do you always remain stressed about the future?
- Has anxiety become a lifestyle?
- Do you feel hopeless and guilty?
If your answer to more than 50% questions was yes, then it is high time for you to get counseling done. All such thoughts and fears can be overcome through counseling. You will get a new life with lots of hope and happiness.
Why Life Coach Ritu Singal?
I am an experienced and dedicated counselor. I help my clients and solve all their problems.
Being the mother of two teenage daughters, I understand what youngsters go through and how to help them.
I believe in finding the root cause of the problem and completely removes the problem forever. I offer youth counselling services to solve all our life issues.
I have given many guest lectures in colleges and educational institutes to empower the youth. I believe in the strength of youth and helps them get on the right career track.