I, Ritu Singal, a life coach, am not here to just promote relationship counselling services. I’m here to tell you the truth. Raw. Brutal. And honest.
So, let’s talk beyond the fluff of premarital counselling and face what Gen Z is truly going through.
When the Dating Coach Gets Cheated On
Remember Wizard Liz? A popular dating coach who preached self-love, boundaries, and avoiding toxic men? She recently revealed she was four months pregnant when her boyfriend cheated on her. The internet went wild. And rightfully so.
She was the poster girl for getting your love life right. yet her world seemed to collapse. Yes, she ended things quickly. But her story opened a wound for many Gen Z readers: _”If someone like her can get cheated on, what chance do I have?“
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Cheating isn’t new , Gen Zs should know that It existed in previous generations too. Husbands working late, wives out more than usual—there were signs.
What’s the difference then? The difference there is that now cheating has become 10 times easier.
You’re just a swipe or a DM away from crossing a line. Reconnecting with an ex is one Ola or Uber ride away. Temptation is one insta dm or a video chat away.
So yes, Gen Z’s fear of marriage? Totally valid.
Checkout: The Power of Pre-Marriage Counseling: A Guide to a Strong and Healthy Relationship
Unhappy but Together: The Reality of Past Marriages
Were Earlier Marriages Really Happier?
So yes fear of marriage of marriage in completely valid. Given the dating scenarios, the number of divorcees and more. But do you think people didn’t want to divorce when they were married earlier? Do you really think those couples who stayed together for long time were happy together?
Yes they were ..on paper with no divorce. And today some divorce couples are happier but not on paper in real.
Earlier, divorce was shameful, people didn’t know what they needed. People just stayed married to look good in front of society, but their kids faced the brunt of abusive marriages. Separation is better in such cases.
The fact that now people can end such relationships is progress not problematic.
Fairytales vs. Reality
I know many of you still dream of that perfect, fairytale marriage. But let’s get one thing straight:
Fairytales are for bedtime stories. Marriage is a full-time, evolving process.
And I’m not here to promise that you won’t meet cheaters or toxic partners. I’m here to show you how to avoid red flags before its too late
You might think you already know. But recognizing danger and reacting to it are two different things. That’s where counselling can help.
Why Marriage Counselling Matters Today
And no I(Ritu Singal) am not going to tell you that there will be no cheaters ,there wont be abusive partners .I am telling you I will help you how to identify the redflags in partners before hand.
And yes, you may already know that . But what you may not know is how to handle such situations.
If today there are more divorces, there is more marriage counselling too, and people who truly want to save their marriage are doing the work with their partners. Which type do you want to identify as? It’s your choice
Final Words of Hope
You are the generation that believes in therapy, emotional intelligence, and breaking generational trauma.
So don’t give up on love just because the world looks messy. Don’t fear marriage. Prepare for it. Work on yourself. Choose wisely.
And if you need help, I’m here. Visit my website to begin your journey.
