How to break the fear of marriage?

I hear you. You fear marriage—and for good reasons. But before you dismiss relationship counselling, I challenge you: stop reading this blog… only if your reason isn’t listed below.

Drawing from my years of coaching thousands of people, I’ve seen it all. And if finances are your concern? I’ve been a business coach and entrepreneur, helping people break free from struggles and build a future they deserve.

So shall we begin?

A first-hand witness of a broken marriage while growing up.
Watched the hardships of marriage, and it doesn’t seem logical.
Heard gossip about how marriages are only done for dowry or alimony.
Seen too many divorces—wives take it all or take nothing.
Fear of spoiling the family’s name.
Feel that wives only want alimony.

Or perhaps:

Prey of one-sided love—one or more times.
Giver in the wrong relationships.
Relationships drain you.
Watched people grow loveless in marriages.
Witnessed or seen physical, emotional, or financial abuse.
Experienced physical, emotional, financial, or sexual abuse.
First-hand experience of domestic violence.
Forced to see in-laws breaking relationships.
Feel that marriage takes away your sense of control.
Carry the feeling of being unlovable.
Often felt misunderstood growing up and felt I wouldn’t fit in a family.
Feel like you don’t have the heart to love another person the way you did before.

or you may have

Given up on people in general.
Have had bad experiences with relationship counselling
Feel you are not ready for marriage yet.
Don’t believe in love—only in the idea of love.
Love somebody of the same sex.
Love somebody outside of your caste/religion.
You are asexual.
Personal finances or marriage finances haven’t been arranged yet
Your parents don’t approve of the guy you want to date.
Marriage won’t let you pursue your other dreams.
Victims of getting stereotypical rights that are not good.
You are scared you will fall out of love.
You have no feelings towards anyone or are emotionally numb.

I am 200% sure you have resonated with more than one of these.

I know all of this because I have had clients like this before, and I understand where you are coming from. They were here just like you—either with so many unresolved emotions, tied up in their mess, or completely emotionless and reckless. I see you more than you know. I may not be able to understand you fully as I don’t know your story yet and what it holds for you.

But yes, I do know one thing: all your feelings are valid. Even without knowing your whole story.

Fear of Marriage: Overcoming Past Trauma

So, I urge you to take a pause and imagine three versions of yourself:

Your wounded self.
The self that can see objectively.
Your highest future self—without all these wounds.

You deserve a love that fills your cup even on days you don’t want to. And yes, you’ve been reading it on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, or WhatsApp—about how much you deserve the right kind of love. But you still haven’t ingrained it in yourself.

Checkout: The Power of Pre-Marriage Counseling: A Guide to a Strong and Healthy Relationship

You still don’t believe in it yet because every time you heal from one wound, another comes entangled with it and pulls you back in. It feels like an endless maze, and I know you’ve tried. You’ve tried so many times, but life keeps repeating patterns.

I am here to break those patterns for you and help you live the life you truly want. If you just give yourself a chance—this time, with an expert guiding you.

Me, Ritu Singal.

It may take at least a year or more, but in the end, it is worth it.

I am not here to convince you to only take my relationship counseling services, but if you find someone as good as me—take it.

I, too, have had to deal with so much in life—things I wish no one should ever go through. That’s why I want you to take steps to build your love or at least be the love of your own life by resolving these issues.

Different tools and techniques have helped me build the life I want today—an entrepreneur of three companies, a mother of two children, and a life coach and business coach.

This wasn’t possible for me before, and I never believed my life would turn out this way. Several of my clients felt the same, but now, they are happy with their lives.

So today, I urge you—to take a leap of faith. Give yourself one more shot at life.

Your higher self is calling you. Will you answer it?

If yes, you can visit my website here.

This is me, Ritu Singal, signing off.