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How Self-Reflection Gives You A Happier And Successful Life

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How Self-Reflection Gives You A Happier And Successful Life

We especially girls like admiring ourselves. We use mirrors to our beauty. A mirror reflects your body, face, complexion, hair, etc. but it cannot reflect our mind and soul. You all have thought of how you look and how sharp and attractive are your features but have you ever felt concerned about your insight? Have you ever looked within? Have you ever peeped into your mind and thoughts?

No. Very few people have realized the importance of self-reflection. It is very important to be aware of your inner self. 

What thoughts are going in your mind?

Is your mind really at peace?

Are you feeling fresh and active from within?

Do you have a balance of mind and control over your emotions?

Do you know why you think the way you do and act that way?

The answer to all the above questions is practicing self-reflection.

“The journey into self-love and self-acceptance must begin with self-examination. Until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life”.

– Iyanla Vanzant

What is self-reflection?

Self-reflection is a process of driving your attention towards your thoughts and acknowledging what is happening in your life in a mindful and open-minded way. All of us are so busy in our life that we don’t have time to stop a bit and spend time with ourselves. It is creating self-awareness and thinking about what is going within us.

It is looking neutrally towards our thoughts, emotions, and actions. It is something like piercing deep within oneself with interest, curiosity, and inquiry to explore ourselves. Self-awareness is very important to have a positive mindset and have a sweet connection with oneself. It makes us mentally strong and determined to take the right actions at the right time.

Why is self-reflection important?

  1. To make things sensible:

“There is no greater journey than the one that you must take to discover all of the mysteries that lie within you.” – Michelle Sandlin

Self-reflection is a great exercise of your mind. When you can deeply connect within, you become more strong and realistic. Confusion and lack of knowledge create frustration and an exhibition of wrong behavior. If you are mature enough to understand the situation; you will of course react aptly. 

  1. To solve all the mysteries:

I have experienced that after self-talks and spending time in silence with myself, I always end up solving a problem or clearing a doubt. When we try to focus within; everything starts to become clear and the problems appear to be smaller than used to appear before. Sit back and relax. Take out some time to reflect on you. You have the solution for a majority of problems. Everything can be sorted out by a calm and composed mind.

  1. To change your thoughts:

I have often heard that the man is the biggest enemy of oneself if his thoughts, way of thinking and reactions are opposite to the demand of the time and situation. You must have complete control over your emotions and reaction. 

With self-reflection, a man learns how to win over his senses and mind as well. Of Course, it is very difficult but not impossible. If we can alter our thought process and change our mindsets we thereby can solve more than half of the problems around us.

  1. To recognize changes and track progress:

When you learn the art of self-reflection you will realize what difference it creates in your life and way of living. Eventually, you will realize that everything has changed so much. The behavior and relations change a lot with the change in approach towards your life. Sit in solitude, evaluate your thoughts, and question yourself to feel the change and track the difference. By self-reflection one is thus able to evaluate the difference in the mindset and the happiness generated.

  1. To increase self-awareness:

In this journey of self-improvement, we need to be clear about the present situation as well as the desired life. Through this process of self-reflection one tries to become more and more aware of the present and able to crack the riddles of the future too. Increasing awareness makes you more sensible and rational which is key to the achievement of the desired destination. Self-reflection enables you to evaluate various parameters of the present life and make changes suitable to make a happy and healthy future.

  1. Self-acceptance:

Self-love and self-examination begin with self-reflection. Only this aids your growth and development. It’s all about being positive and keeps on learning as u grow. Whenever you feel that you are doing something wrong and feel negative vibes within, just divert your thoughts towards your positive side. 

Accept whoever and whatever you are. If you accept yourself the world will also welcome you. Thus, when you become aware you can live in your present more joyously. 

  1. Improved relationships:

As you become more sensible and thoughtful your relationships also change. By following the process you get rid of misunderstandings which spoil the whole essence of tr; relationships. The panic and wrath also reduce to a great extent with the increase of maturity and balance of mind. As you grow more and more mature, you can understand the sensitivity of relations more aptly and direct your efforts towards increasing the unity and love of the family.

  1. Improved decision making:

We have to make thousands of decisions in a day. Some of them are insignificant and are done continuously in our unconscious mind. But some decisions are very significant and require a handsome amount and quality of thought. For such important decisions, one needs to think and rationalize things. Also, you need to have a clear and wide perspective of the future. Such perseverance comes from the process of self-reflection.

The right decision is necessary to put you on the most optimal path for your better well being. Self-reflection leads to fewer regrets, less guilt, and more opportunities by helping you to make the right choice.

  1. Better sleep:

When you make a habit of thinking every day about yourself, your actions, and your responses you become more satisfied and all your queries also get answered. When there are no un-cleared doubts and confusion you are sure to get sound quality sleep. As you exactly know what is happening and how to handle it you are less aggressive and feel more pacified. The only caveat to this is that your negative vibes may turn against you and make you feel restless. But this should not happen. All your negative thoughts should be channelized and converted into positive ones. Thus, self-reflection is the necessary medicine for relaxed sleep and sweet dreams.

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  1. Gives a purpose to live:

Living without any particular aim and just walking blindly is not at all happening in this era of continuous growth and development. When you indulge yourself in this thinking and reflecting process you can identify your passion and skills in a better way.  

Therefore it will not only guide you towards your ultimate destination but also promises self-confidence and happiness in the path to success. It also encourages you to find ways of how you can add more joy and fun into your life.

  1. Makes us a better human being:

Self-reflection is dwelling inside you deep into the silent space. With this continuous practice you become focused and a sense of sensitivity and kindness is also generated, when you become master in it, spiritual awakening is inevitable. Likewise, entering into the empty space and imagining yourself and the universe made me realize how small I am in this giant universe. But I can become so powerful that I control my destiny by my thought process and will power. Self reflection makes you see the truth about yourself and your worldly connections. It makes you feel content and happier from within. Soon you become a better human being who has a good heart and love and generosity for everyone.

Life has become so busy and challenging that it is hard to remember that when was the last time you sat and relaxed to think about yourself and the circumstances. You hardly have any time to think and feel happy about your achievements or the sorrows you have endured. We get so caught up in the hustle and bustle that we end up becoming numb to pausing and deep thinking. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Not thinking at all and utilizing your mind, may prove to be very dangerous. It is very necessary to take time to reflect on the mental and spiritual well-being of any person. But now the next question that comes to mind of everyone is how I do it.

Self-reflection is a deep and continuous process. It has to be practiced every day, every week, and the whole of the year. It is a particular kind of awareness which is applied on many levels like

  • Spiritual
  • Mental
  • Physical
  • Emotional

How Ritu Singal Helps You With a Self Reflection Program?

In order to understand the concept of self-reflection and its benefit, I take you through the details while guiding you. Recently I helped a person struggling with both professional as well as personal life. After the detailed discussion, I reached the decision of helping him with self-reflection. I have developed a self-reflection program where I put the person through different tests in order to test their personality, thought process, and other things that could help me to analyze the core issue and help him or her. This includes a personality test, baseline test, and wheel of life to know how exactly your life is going and come up with the solutions to make it better. It’s A 10-week program that could really transform your life so you can start to enjoy it instead of just living it. 

How will you start to practice self-reflection

Self-reflection should be learned and started immediately if you have not yet done it. I used to walk like dumbs in confusion and had no recognition until I started to take time for self-reflection and doing everything that was well planned and meaningful. Actually, no such particular way to start self-reflection but here is a way generalized steps you may consider:

Determine your goals:

The first step is to set goals both short term and long term. It has been observed that many of the goals and hidden desires always go unaccomplished in absence of awareness that comes from self-reflection.

When you have a clear vision you can better evaluate your current situation and assessment of what has to be done to go to the desired destination. The goal must be clear, obvious, attainable and time-bound.

Evaluate your strength and weakness:

Knowing your limits and powers is very important to survive in this world. Self-reflection is very important to make us realize and think about our strengths and weaknesses. Thus you can build upon your strengths to become better and replace your weakness with better qualities and characteristics.

Consider what you can improve in the next time:

There is always thought upon your past day space for growth and development. The next thing is to think about your past day and what you want to change in it. Take the dime to reflect your daily experience like this. Know where you are and where you actually want to be.

Forgive yourself:

As a part of self-reflection you sometimes may dwell into your dark side also. Nevertheless you must accept yourself whoever and however you are. Self-acceptance is the basic requirement of self-reflection. Mistakes are a part of life but that does not mean that we become harsh with ourselves, Embrace you gently with love. Everything can be sorted out and everything can be made dining with awareness. Hurdles can be turned into opportunities as well if you reflect upon them and act aptly.

Keep a track:

Self reflection is all pervasive and you ought to keep doing it continuously. Self reflection is meaningless if it is not able to bring qualitative changes in your life. To reap the actual benefits of self-reflection you have to stick to the process. Keep on tracking your growth and monitor your observations to know who successfully you have been able to implement it. You can maintain a journal also so that you can jot down your points and track them.

Gibbs reflective cycle

Graham was an academic researcher who created a model to make you understand the effectiveness of self-reflection. This model depicts different steps in this process. These steps are a roadmap of how to practice reflection and bring changes into your life through it. Its detailed study will create an understanding and help us to better implement this process and bring changes into our lifestyles.

Here is a story to help you understand better:

There was an elephant who was walking towards his herd after taking a bath. There came ape which was coming from muddy water and was covered with mud. As the pig approached the elephant gave him side to move past him. While walking ahead the pig laughed saying that the elephant was afraid of him. The other pigs were also amused and started laughing.

To this the other elephants enquired of why he did so and didn’t say the rude pig anything. To this the elephant replied that “To which the elephant replies, “No. I could have crushed that pig under my leg if I wanted to, but the pig was muddy and the mud would have splashed on me too. I wanted to avoid that, hence I stepped aside.”

Moral: The elephant didn’t react in anger. He first examined the situation and responded in a rational way that saved him from dirt and negativeness. Petty things cannot disturb you when you are in a higher state of vibration i.e. if you are aware. You generate a deeper understanding of what serves you and what does not.

Spending your precious energy arguing/fighting with someone who is egotistically motivated is never going to serve you. It just leads to a, ‘who is better’ battle where no one wins. You end up giving your energy to an energy vampire who craves attention and drama.

Instead, you are better off spending all your focus on things that matter and simply discard things that are of a lower significance.

So let’s get started!!

To conclude i can only say that peace and harmony are very important to live a healthy life and also for sustainable growth and development. This can be only achieved by a continuous self-examination and awareness. It helps us remove the inner roadblocks and become aware of things that actually matter us and are becoming hurdles in the way of our success. It is not easy and requires eagerness to improve, one has to be alert, cautious and open to several possibilities that can come from within. Understanding oneself better, examining the strength and weakness and knowing all the driving factors one can better adapt to continuous changing situations in life.

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7 Steps To Create A Prolific Plan For The Week

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7 Steps To Create A Prolific Plan For The Week

When it comes to life, we tend to do everything with planning. Being humans it has been our mentality to run things according to our plans. From our childhood we are taught, only a person who knows how to plan things can actually succeed in life.

Planning anything and everything has always been beneficial. The people who strategize things well are more prone to succeed in life as compared to others.

I remember I had a client once. Her name was Angela. She was one of the brightest girls I had ever seen. Glorious in academics, medalled in sports, and a certified Kathak dancer.

As she was so perfect, I asked her what brought her to me. She very politely said, “ There are things that I have achieved, but there are things that are yet to achieve.”

As the session proceeded, we talked and tried to understand each other. At only the age of 21, she had made so many achievements.

Now, she felt like she had no purpose to fulfill. She thought she did everything in haste and that if she could have done things with a little more patience and planning, it could have been great for her.

At such a young age, she felt like she had nothing to do and nothing to achieve. It is what happens when we fail to plan things and work according to our plans in life. Many times we feel lost mid-way because of unplanned life.

I asked her what made her think this way. Was it because everything she kept on doing was unplanned?

To this, she said, “I just kept on doing things one after the other. I thought if I do things quickly, it’ll be great for me. I never felt the need to create a plan for myself.”

By that time, I already knew what was the problem that was eating her head, and what will be its solution.

She had never planned things. She exhausted herself by indulging in every activity at one time. Had she done activities with more patience and planning, her life would have been different.

I asked her to start planning what she needs to acquire or fulfill in a day. I asked her to create daily plans a night before for one week.

She visited me the next week. I asked her if she finds herself more productive now. She smiled and said, “ I did have so many things to do in a single day. I was not even realizing how much I was acquiring in a day.”

With this, she realized she has various purposes in life. Now I asked her to plan your week. She sat on Sunday and wrote whatever she will accomplish in the week ahead. After inculcating weekly plans, in the next session, she said, “ I have actually found my purpose in life.” She was so satisfied and glad that she found the hope she lost. Today, she has completed her masters and conducts dance classes for girls.

How did this happen?

While planning her days and week, she knew how much time to give to what activity. As she started planning her weeks, she started sparing out times for the things she wanted to do or liked to do. As she spent more and more time on the things she loved, she knew what she wanted for herself in the future.

You see, everything starts with planning. Planning your week is the first step towards productivity. Planning and fulfilling your planned things help you achieve many things in life.

Why do you need to plan your week?

As I have already said, having a plan is extremely good for your productivity and life. Still, at times we doubt how a strategy can help us or planning your week can benefit you. According to me, here I have collected the four most prominent reasons why you need a plan.

  1. Weekly planning boosts your productivity

When I say being productive, I do not mean staying busy or working throughout your day. A person is said to be productive if he or she makes the most of the day in the least time. In simple words, a person who completes all his tasks on time and saves time for himself and other activities is said to be productive. If you plan your week in advance, you will know what all you have to accomplish, how much time you have to spare for each task, and how much time you will have for yourself. You will focus only on the right things and focus your energy there.

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  1. You’ll learn to say NO

 

One of the most arduous things to say in the world is ‘No’. Saying no to wrong habits, friends, socializing, or wasting time on the phone becomes very difficult for people these days. People do not avoid other activities because they are unaware of how much pending work they have. For example, you have to complete a presentation and prepare for a seminar for a meeting tomorrow. You decide to devote extra hours from your break to use for this work. However, your colleagues approach you and convince you to join them for lunch at a nearby restaurant. Since you have no plan and time constraints on yourself, you think you’ll finish your work later and decide to join them for lunch. You then had to spend all your night working on the presentation. Now you understand how planning could have helped you?

When you have a plan, and you know you have to acquire certain things within a given time frame, then you’ll learn to say ‘no’ whenever required.

  1. Weekly planning helps to keep a balance between work and life

The concept of planning is very simple. The more you work according to your plan, the more time you will have to yourself. If you accomplish your tasks on time, you will have more free time. Who doesn’t like free time? Lost amidst so many tasks, we hardly find time to take care of our mental health. If we have more free time, we will stress less. It will help us manage our mental health and productivity.

A work-life balance will be created by planning your week. You will have time to spend with your family. You may even indulge in your loved activities like cooking, dancing, or writing. It will help you balance your life.

  1. Planning your week will make you more aware

Many times in life, we are so deeply involved in work that we do not realize what is happening around us. It happens mostly when we keep on piling up work unless we are overloaded with it, and now we have no time to look around. 

If you make a plan and work according to it, you’ll stay more aware and conscious of your surroundings. Multi-tasking will become more efficient. Being too busy, we miss out on a lot of small tasks. Getting the bigger fish remains our target, and because of it, so many smaller tasks remain untouched. If you plan your week, you will have leftover time. It is the time which you can utilize for the smaller tasks.

How to plan your week?

Even after knowing the need to create a plan, many people wonder how to schedule a week. Planning a week requires both patience and intellect.  Planning your week is creating a layout or an outline of what you are going to do each day. You don’t have to create a very detailed plan however, it will be great if you can. Start with simple steps and action plans. Your plan should make you feel prepared for the entire week. Let us now learn how to create a plan for your week.

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What do you need to create a plan?

  • Blank notebook/ Journal/ Planner
  • A calendar (probably weekly)
  • Pens and stick-on.

How to schedule a week?

Follow these steps to create a weekly plan right away.

Step 1

The first step in creating the plan for the week is to review your bigger plans. Yes! You first need to chalk down the major events of your week. It can include some important meetings, interviews, tests, or anything that you find crucial in your week. Review your monthly priorities and plans. Once you review all the big fishes, you can schedule them on the required dates. With only this step, a major chunk of your week will be assigned.

Step 2

Make a list for your week. I always say lists are very crucial for anyone. They are very helpful and benefit you in many ways. In fact, you should first make a list of all the things you have to accomplish within the week. If you have a list of the things to be done, then you can simply assign the tasks from the list to your planner. Your list should not only include your professional works, but also household chores like grocery shopping or washing clothes. Also, you can rearrange events of a list whenever you wish.

Step 3

The next step to planning your week is to prioritize your tasks. Prioritizing means figuring out the things that absolutely need to be done, and things that can be shifted. Highlight the tasks that are on your top priorities for the week. Let us be honest we all have a few extremely crucial tasks. Prioritizing things will give you the satisfaction of completing major tasks before. You can prioritize around 5-8 tasks a week.

Step 4

Now that you have listed tasks and plans for the week. The next step is to decide the actions to be taken to complete these tasks. What is the importance of a strategy when the actions are not decided? Planning your actions along with your plan will help you boost productivity. You can think about action steps that will help you get your work completed.

Step 5

Now, with everything in hand, from tasks, assignments, priorities, lists, and actions, it is time to create the final schedule. It is the most crucial step for you. Firstly, assign your prioritized tasks to the days you think are required for them. Assign each prioritized task from your list to a designated day.

Secondly, try to group similar tasks. For example, if you have to go grocery shopping and buy some electronics, instead of taking out time on two days, you can get ready and perform both the tasks on the same day. Grouping tasks is very beneficial as your brain doesn’t have to switch between different activities again and again. 

Step 6

If you have decided on a plan for yourself, it does not mean you cannot be flexible with your plan. Once your plan is ready, you can review and adjust your weekly plans. It does not mean your plan is not efficient. It simply means adjusting according to the changes around you. For example, you can be assigned a new work task at the office. It can be outside your plan now you cannot refuse to do so. In such situations, you can review and adjust your plans according to the present requirement. You can review your plan every evening, add new tasks, and remove old ones.

Step 7

While deciding a plan for your week, make sure you add mindfulness or relaxing activities to it. The aim of making a plan is to give yourself some me-time. Each day spares some time for activities that you like. They can be reading, dancing, writing, or meditation, yoga, or exercises.

Pro-Tip

For each day of your week, make sure you assign one big task. One such task that requires time and effort should be assigned each day instead of grouping them on one day. It will help you stay focused and will get your important task done on time. 

This task means getting the bigger fish. When the bigger and crucial tasks are done on time, you remain stress-free and satisfied for the rest of the day or week.

Create fulfilling routines

Fulfilling routines are the routines that make your life more rewarding. While planning your week, it becomes critical to create a routine that offers both personal care and rejuvenation work life. Think of ways in which you can make your life easier and more fulfilling. Incorporate activities in your routines that give you happiness. 

If you have a family, then giving time to your kids or partner is very essential. Make sure in your weekly plans you include family nights, date nights, and movie nights for your family and loved ones. It is the most beautiful part of creating plans. It gives you the option of managing time in a way that suits you and makes your life easy to live.

What are the benefits of creating weekly plans?

Some life-changing benefits of planning your week are:

  • You get a clear idea of how much work and effort you have to put in. 
  • You can prepare yourself if you know the week is going to be a busy one.
  • You can create an action plan and decide a game plan for yourself.
  • You’ll feel satisfied and productive throughout the week.
  • It will improve your mental health in many ways.
  • You’ll stay stress-free and will be able to manage your chores better.
  • You get a track of all your responsibilities that are to be fulfilled.
  • You learn to prioritize your work.
  • One learns to focus and fulfill the important things only.
  • You will get the reward of accomplishment, and there’s no other feeling better than that.
  • You learn time-management. With each task, you can track the time you spend on it.
  • You get time to do things that you really love. It brings out your creative side.
  • You learn to work by breaking bigger tasks into smaller achievable goals.
  • Multi-tasking becomes a habit with planning and scheduling tasks.
  • You get to know yourself better, like where you spend more time.
  • Helps to improve workflow tremendously.

Final Thoughts

If you start planning a day, soon it becomes a habit. Once you come to know how beneficial and satisfying it is, you will find it arduous to work without plans. To make the most of your week, you have to work on plans week after week. At times, you might wish to leave it all and do what your heart wants. However, these are your testing times.

You can take breaks from routines but only once a week. If you start taking your plans casually, you’ll be the one at loss. There’s no worse feeling than the guilt of not being able to fulfill one’s task on time. Planning your week is the first step towards a succeeding attitude.

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What Good Happens When You Simplify Your Life?

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What Good Happens When You Simplify Your Life?

“Simplicity is the peak of civilization.” – Jessie Sumpter

Always Preoccupied With Work

No Time For Self-Care

Growing Responsibilities Of Family

Social Circle Demanding More Time

No Time To Relax 

No Peace Of Mind

And so on….the list continues.

There is a lot of load and pressure on this head and shoulders. The mind is continuously active with no relaxation sessions. This life is a race, and everyone is running in the hoard to come first. In this era, growth and development have no limits. The ambitious people have so much to do in very little time. With this are the add-ons of family and social responsibilities.

Simplification of lifestyle is the only process through which one can make life a bit easier and more productive. You can get a break from the balancing act of life and live life a bit more calmly.

Lifecoach Ritu Singal says that simplification has a different significance for everyone. People with varying levels of attitude towards life and routines define a simple life in different styles.

Simplification of life does not mean that your life is going to be very easy. Ups and downs are sure to come. The only thing that changes is that you get a solution to come out of them. However, the answer may be tricky, as well. It will always power and some efforts to follow the decided route.

What does the Simplification of life mean?

Simplification is to cut down the extra steps of your routine to manage your time better and concentrate more on productive aspects of life. It is making life happier, getting more control over your life, and wasting less of your valuable time. It ultimately makes the experience more enjoyable!

It is clearing the clutter of life, both- physical and mental. It means getting rid of unwanted pressure and things you dislike. It is doing something that matters to you and makes your life more fit and happy. You can pursue essential and satisfying things if you have less stuff and fewer obligations. Simplification is an all-pervasive process and can be done anytime and from anywhere.

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Simplifying your life is very important because everything in your life takes up space. Whether it’s mental space, physical space, or calendar space, you need so much room. Everything you own, everything you do, and everyone you spend time which costs you something. And when you have an abundance of stuff, it costs you a lot. Simplifying your life will give you more time, space, and energy.

Simplification is a continuous process. As you grow and learn more about this, you can get it done in life. To simplify your lifestyle, one needs to have a broad vision, positive attitude, and awareness. The focus should be on the attainment of a goal and the means to achieve it. The plans may be- short-term goals or long-term goals, personal goals, or career goals. Whatever I may be, everything can be completed more conveniently if you simplify your life and save yourself from all wasteful acts and unhealthy practices.

Simplification of life has to do at many levels as such:

  1. Physical Level

Pay attention to your health. Being fit and healthy is not only essential for our well being, but also our growth and development. A person who is physically fit is active and energetic the whole day. Tiredness does not come to him quickly. So he is more productive and focused as well. 

  1. Mental Level

Mental well-being is, of course, essential for our existence and happiness. It is an intangible feeling of peace and satisfaction within oneself. If one is mentally fit, he can be more innovative. Practice mediation and listen to awareness programs to enhance your mental health.

  1. Relationship Management

Emotional intelligence is one of the significant and underestimated abilities essential to turn into a physician leader. Whether you need to keep up better relationships with those above you or wish to deal with your groups all the more successfully, upgrading your emotional intelligence might be the missing piece you require for great results. Having the option to recognize and address feelings, both in you and in others, permits us to experience compassion and, hence, associate entirely with others.

  1. Personal Relations

Play an essential role in the life of a man. Good relationship bonds and caring relationships are fundamental to the happiness and security of any person. 

  1. Career

Actions have to be taken and plans made to achieve the desired goals. His achievement and post recognize a man. Simplification of life increases the efficiency of working, and thus the achievement of goals becomes more comfortable and feasible in the desired timeline.

Now the next question that arises into your mind is how we can simplify our lives. However, the answer to this question is different for everyone, but a few key points may be related to everyone. 

Ways To Simplify Your Life

Set short term goals

Long term goals and new year resolutions are a bit difficult to achieve. Sometimes They don’t give tangible returns shortly. Or else break the goal into small achievable targets. Slowly and steadily, as we keep on moving forward and achieving these mini targets, ultimately, the main target is also performed.

Declutter your closet

Most of the people have a habit of just filling the shelves of their wardrobe. But along with new clothes the old clothes also keep on increasing. One must regularly keep on updating and cleaning the cabinets. The extra and unwanted stuff must be given away so that the wardrobe’s precious space can be utilized to the fullest.

Make a good morning routine

A day must start with a real big smile, gratefulness to god, energy, and a healthy drink. A day that has created well is sure to give you good news and happy and satisfactory moments all day.

Get rid of bad mental habits

The basic need for simplification is to give ease to the mind. A mind that is free and fresh can create histories. Just delete all kinds of bad memories from your mind. Bad memories always act as the biggest hindrance to the growth of a person. Also, there must be no space for negative thoughts in mind.

Pay off your debts

Debts or liabilities must be paid off as soon as possible. One must have the prime aim of paying off the debt, if any, as soon as you get some income source. Obligations are the biggest headache to the lender as well as the receiver. Debt is a crucial factor contributing to mental sickness and stress. Reliving this mental stress is the best way to simplify your life. Once you get rid of the debt, you can manage your finances in a much better way.

It helps to plan your budget and also set long term financial plans. It helps make a better picture of upcoming projects and ascertain the costs, profits, and losses.

Find forms of entertainment

Do what you love. Track your passion. Spend time doing things and activities that give you joy and peace. Running behind the goals, the man has forgotten to enjoy life and pursue their hobbies. Recognize the sources of fun and entertainment. I spent a little time doing things that give you Goosebumps and make you feel rejuvenated. This adds up to the simplification of life as you feel free and relaxed.

Say no to excess mobiles and T.V.

T.V. and mobiles are seriously an excellent means to waste time. People and students spent so much of their crucial time watching movies, daily soaps, etc. on TV. This is unproductive. Additionally, it is a sheer loss when mobile is used to play games and just chit chats here and there. Life is so busy, and there are so many tasks that such a waste of time is not affordable. Instead, one can spend this time doing something worthwhile or valuable. This will enable you to feel more content. Thus by cutting these unnecessary steps, life can be simplified to a great extent.

Stay away from negative people

Pessimistic people not just send negative vibes but also drain all the energy. They also play a significant role in de-motivating and decreasing the self-confidence of a person. Try to stay away from such kinds of people as much as possible. Even if they come close to you, divert the topic or walk away from them. This will simplify your life significantly. Such people are obstacles in the path of happiness and prosperity. The company of such people affects your name and goodwill as well.

Life becomes very simple and straightforward if there is no one to manipulate you or talk about life’s negative aspects.

Plan

Everyone must have a plan for his or her life. You must be clear about what you want and how you will be able to achieve it. Then plan your routines and activities accordingly. When you don’t have a pre-set outline or a to-do list, life becomes clumsy and confusing. You don’t know the exact course of action and end up doing the wrong things or making wrong decisions.

Thus one must live an organized and well-planned life. There must be no room for’ if’s and but’s.’ Life will become very simple and easy going if you live according to the planned course of action and keep willpower on the pre-decided track. Planning is thus essential to simplify your life and balance the day to day activities and tasks.

Learn how to say “No”

Many of you are of nature that you can’t deny anyone about anything. This seldom adds to your clutter and increases your tension and pressure. These unwanted tasks and activities increase your workload and disturb the daily routine. It may disrupt the balance of your life as well/

Helping is good, and you must benefit everyone, but that extended help in no way should disturb your course of life. When we are clear of our priorities and what is essential to be happy and satisfied, you can clearly distinguish between what has to be done and what to be avoided.

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When you start saying “No’ to waste or unproductive activities, it will automatically simplify your life. Fewer activities mean less pressure, fewer obligations, and thus a more simple and happy life.

Spend less time on social media

An average person spends so many hours on social media. One can spend his entire day on social media sites like Facebook, WhatsApp, Snapchat, Instagram, etc.

Social media is an excellent means to stay in touch with so many people and increase your network, but, at the same time, it can be proved as a waste of valuable time when you start exerting excess time on it. 

For example, Students often ruin their careers due to this. The time that is given to studies is given to these networking sites. Then they are left with nothing except guilt and repent. Everything must be done within limits. Too much of anything disturbs life. Thus by diverting these hours towards something productive and valuable will simplify your life. It will reduce the workload and increase your efficiency too.

Fix your priorities

Before starting to find means to simplify your life, one must first decide what is important and how you want your life to look. After seeing what you want out of your life, one has to decide how to achieve the desired experience. Thus, it is essential to fix life priorities before planning or taking any further action. Making a list of priorities makes it easy to decide what has to be done and what has to be ignored.

All the steps taken to simplify life must be aimed at achieving the desired goal. All the extra clutter that may hold you back is thus eliminated. Life becomes simple when you can focus on your priorities and therefore feel content and happy.

It will not only clear your mind by deleting all the confusion but also motivate you to be more dedicated and faithful towards your work. Simplification of life and fixing of priorities go hand in hand. If you cannot recognize your desires and simplify your life accordingly, you cannot be happy and relaxed.

Switch to the latest technology, i.e., get updated

The advent of technology has no doubt simplified our lives to a great extent. With the help of the latest machines and technologies, numerous times, taking steps can be avoided. Also, the work that used to take hours can be done in very little time. Productivity and efficiency can be increased to a great extent using the latest technology. One must be well-updated and know all the existing updates that can make his life more comfortable and superficial. 

Modernization is necessary not in the home’s daily routine activities but also the office and workplace. This will make life simpler, more comfortable, and better.

Take care of your health

One must do regular exercises, yoga, and meditation for physical fitness, and stay away from chronic illness and diseases. Physical and mental fitness is essential to living a simple and happy life. Also, stay hydrated by drinking lots of water and take a balanced and nutritious diet for a healthy heart and liver.

One who is fit from health and mind can make better decisions—also, the activeness and freshness increase. Thus, everything in life looks simpler and happening.

To illustrate this,

Once there was a woman who was a housewife. All burdened with family responsibilities. She also wanted to do something for herself to earn money and self-confidence. She started working for the household as she woke up and spent all her day looking after her husband and children. She had no time for self-care or to pursue her career and become successful in life. This made her so unhappy and depressed. She also had a shallow level of self-confidence.

After reading books and attending some motivational seminars, she learned about the different concepts of life. She recognized herself and fixed her life; she also switched to some modern techniques to simplify her household work. She set a goal for herself as what she wanted from her life.

After setting the aim, she began to plan to simplify her life and reduce her head’s clutter. She just eliminated all the unwanted things and unwanted negative people from her life. She made a list of priorities and the things that made her feel content and happy.

Thus she began to feel free and happy. She started teaching in a school to earn a livelihood and pursue her career aim. Hence now she lives a simpler life, stress-free, content, and very happy.

Conclusion

Of course, life is very complicated, and everyone is so busy and preoccupied. This is the only reason why the simplification of life is necessary. By simplifying life, it becomes joyous and overwhelming. 

However, it cannot be done in a single stroke or through a one day plan. Simplification is a continuous process. One has to be very thoughtful and open-minded. Having a broad vision and focusing on priorities will enable you to make the right decisions on simplifying life.

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Secrets To Create More Balance in Life From Reputed Life Coach

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Secrets To Create More Balance in Life From Reputed Life Coach

Many of us find ourselves in great panic. Feel as if a heavy stone is put upon our head and we have to bear its weight the whole life. It is nothing but a load of responsibilities and the trauma associated with it. We have to do so many tasks together like studies, work, office, home, children, and relations. All these are very difficult to manage together. Thinking of so much together makes us depressed and so much confused and irritating.

Have you felt a need for calmness in your life?

Have you ever wished for a fresh mind and peace?

Have you ever felt yourself as if fighting in a circus ring?

If the answer is “yes”; that means the only thing you need is to have a balance in life.

Now, what exactly is the Balance of life?

Ritu Singal says that one is said to live a balanced life when he or she can form a harmony in all aspects of life.  It means that when you can handle all the elements of life nicely and your heart or mind is not being pulled forcefully in any particular direction. You feel calm, grounded, clear-headed, and motivated. Balance of life is a natural phenomenon; it is a state of mind and is attained by continuous practice and self-awareness.

Creating a balance is different for every individual. It depends from person to person. Balance need to be made in two elements of life:

  1. Internal – Mind, Heart, and Health. 
  2. External- Work, Social, Family, and fun.

How to create balance in your life?

When you feel that things are not working and want control over your life or we can say to establish a balance between different aspects of your life, follow the following tricks 

Acknowledge your present situation: Become aware of what you are doing. Don’t get carried away in the flow of life. Do what is necessary and meaningful following your priorities. Becoming aware will help you to seek out things and help you live a purposeful life and strike a balance in different activities of your life.

No phones: Phones always keep you busy and occupied. It is advisable to keep it off for some hours of the day. Disconnecting yourself is essential as it makes your brain run faster and enables you to spend time with friends and family.

Cut it off: If there is an overflow of work and there are numerous tasks to be done it becomes difficult to establish a balance between all. Thus, one has to decide about the priorities of your life and say no to non-essential things so that you can concentrate on essential things and do everything peacefully.

Say “No” to negativity: Pessimistic people and their talks always take you backward in life. They create fear and tension in the mind. This leads to more confusion and irritation in the minds of the people. They lose their balance and are unable to make the right decisions in life. Thus keep a distance from such kinds of people. Also, keep on monitoring your thoughts. Any kind of negative vibe must be wiped off. Spend time with positive, motivated, and energetic people.

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Have some leisure time: Spend time with yourself. Spend some time alone, sit back, and relax. Do what you like the most- reading books, listening to music, Painting, etc. It will help you to recognize yourself. When one is completely relaxed and fresh he can think better and have a broad vision. Thus can make a better decision and manage things properly. It is crucial in lowering stress, increasing happiness, and encouraging creativity.

Spend time with family: Family and relationships act as a major healer. Spending time with them makes you feel more happy and complete. Spend time with your love, play with your children, and Serve your parents. It will help you to know them and relax.

Improve your health: Physical fitness is very important for a relaxed and happy mind. Do yoga, exercises, gymming, and meditation. Our health affects the quality of work and our focus as well. Physical fitness aids in working with more energy and dedication and thus increases productivity as well.  Good health is equal to a more happy and satisfying life.

Have fun: Boring and monotonous life is very frustrating. Being occupied by work and responsibilities the whole day makes a man irritating and tired both physically as well as mentally. Some amount of fun and adventure is necessary for relaxation as well. Dine out, Go on a coffee, explore the world, meet friends, watch a movie, etc. Do anything that can give you a belly laugh and thus makes you feel happy and relaxed within.

Become aware: There are many online and face to face courses that teach you how to train your mind. Attend motivational seminars and listen to the gurus which can enlighten your mind and life as well.

Despite knowing the importance and the ways to achieve it we are seldom unable to strike the right balance in our life. It may be due to several reasons as illustrated hereunder:

Reasons, why you are living, might be feeling off-balance

  • When you don’t know what balancing is:

There is no definite formula for how to simplify your life. This differs from person to person. Balancing is an art, its feeling is different for all depending upon the responsibilities, job, age, hobbies, and relationships.

For this focus on your thoughts and make them revolve around this concept. Imagine how life would be if you were more satisfied and happy. Imagine how you want your life to be and how a balanced life would look like. This helps you get a clear picture of what balancing is and what has to be done to attain what you are striving for.

Figure out what balance is and how it can be achieved. Think, rest, and meditate.

  • When you don’t have a good will-power

Unnecessary distractions must not be able to move you. One must be clear on priorities that will help to achieve the goal of life. Also, set personal boundaries that must not be crossed by anyone; not even yourself. Discipline in life is necessary for the attainment of goals. No plan and formula can be worked out successfully if one does not have self-discipline and a strong will-power. 

 To strike balances in life first learn to train your mind and do the tasks that go following your priority. Distractions will take you away from the goal and cause confusion and anxiety.

  • When you are not consistent with your actions

Being consistent is doing or following the routine that was established to achieve the desired goal. Sticking with the help of the established practice in mastering over the things and also strike the balance between all the tasks related to your daily life. 

Shifting or changing the course of action, again and again, leads to confusion and hassle. This often leads you to off-balance and takes you away from your target.

  • Lack of planning

Planning is an essential way to achieve balance in life. Outlining the week or day beforehand will increase your productivity and achieve the desired results on time. Planning can be done for work-life, studies, related to family goals, or any other task. Planning minimizes the unproductive time and also reduces real-time panic and losses associated with it.

The planning must encompass everything- appointments, projects, social/relationship time, time for self-care, etc. Thus planning aids in the easy achievement of targets and establishes a balance between different responsibilities and roles to be played throughout the day.

  • No time for self-care

Pampering yourself is very important to feel happy and confident. Everyone must take out time from their busy schedule for self-love and self-care. A fit body is essential to work for the whole day. Also, self-care is important to maintain your looks- eyes, hair, and skin. It also includes nurturing your mind and soul.

This makes you feel confident and gives a positive attitude towards life. Thus without self-care one gets depressed and feels inferior. Low energy enables him to work with full dedication. Thus achieving a balance in life and peace becomes difficult.

This story helps you to understand this concept better 

Once there was a woman. she was very polite and decent. Married in a joint family she was overburdened with work and responsibilities. Along with this, she had to go to the office and focus on her career as well. She was depressed and found it very difficult to do everything together. She had to play so many roles together. As a result, her health degraded and her looks also got average. She began to have headaches and grew mentally sick.

Then once she attended a session on how to attain balance in life and tips to live a happy life. She read many books regarding this. She understood the meaning of balance and the way to achieve balance in life. She practiced all the ways to achieve it. She did meditation and became aware of her present life. She made a blueprint of what she wanted from her life.

She dreamt of a happy and peaceful life. With more self-care and broad vision, she was able to balance her personal and professional life. She started staying happy and satisfied. She became mentally and physically fit as well. She again started looking beautiful and performed very well at work as well.

Thus plan your life and strive to achieve balance in life. This will impart to you all the happiness of life.

Advantages of living a balanced life

Improve your mood:  Once you have a balanced life, you feel more content and happy. It acts as a mood buster. Negative thoughts and depression just go away from your life forever. Anger and frustration are released out.  Thus, overall it imparts you peace of mind and happiness from within.

Improve health: Balance in life is a result of positive thinking, deep thought, and harmony in day to day activities. When you are mentally free, you can concentrate on the different aspects of your health too. Less stress reduces the risk of high BP and heart problems as well. Thus it leads to overall perfect health.

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More energy: When everything is planned and perfect, life seems to be so beautiful. Balance in life makes you more productive and helps in the timely attainment of goals. When you are healthy and have a clear and fresh mind, you become more energetic and active.

Healthy social life: Everyone wants to spend time with positive and happening people. Their attitude and confidence attract more friends and family towards them. They often act as a role model for many. Thus social relations foster and you become more and more happy and successful.

More self-confidence: When you can strike the right balance in life, you become more confident. A man with a healthy and fit mind, body, and soul are sure to have a boost in confidence. 

Achievement of career aims: A man who can strike a balance in life is bound to achieve all the desired aims of life. He becomes successful in all aspects of life. Nothing is impossible for the one who lives a balanced life.

Conclusion 

Stop saying that I’m busy. Busy. Busy !! In this technological world, everyone is hijacked by computers, mobiles, and social media. Moreover, the stress of family and personal duties is also increasing. There is a lot to be done in very little time. The mind is always preoccupied which leads to stress and conflicts. Time can be given to everything and everyone if balanced properly. Learn managing yourself. Be mindful and think rationally. Learn to love yourself. Living a balanced life is key to a happy and peaceful mind.

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Ways For Being Content With What You Are

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Ways For Being Content With What You Are

We all are god’s children. He has created the universe and all the human beings and creatures. All men are not equal. He has blessed everyone with different qualities. We must trust in his creation and should feel content with what we are bestowed upon.

We often feel jealous of other people around us. We look at their clothes, accessories, luxury, and success in career; studies etc. and compare with what we have. This does nothing but makes us sometimes feel incompetent and depressed. This exerts a bad impression on our mind and thus affects our mental well being as well. 

Shakespeare once said-  “ I cried when I had no shoes, so I stopped crying when I saw a man without legs.”

Also our great leader Mahatma Gandhi had always preached that whenever you feel that you have something less or feel inferior look at the people who are below you. You will feel grateful and lucky. God has bestowed you with so many qualities which others don’t have. We must focus on the good within us and forget the rest.

This little trick will change everything surely.

What does feeling content actually mean?

Have you ever tried to be grateful for what you have?

Have you felt the sense of complete and satisfied?

Feeling content is a feeling that comes from inside. It comes from within our heart. It is feeling satisfied and happy with what you have. It not just gives you enormous self confidence but also motivates to move forward in the right direction.

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We are blessed with a wonderful body, the organ system, the senses but many of the people don’t have this also. Imagine your body without any of the organs or a missing sense. And even with this mis-happening they manage to smile and live so why not we? We are blessed and we must be thankful for that.

Not feeling content has many bad repercussions also like

  1. Hinders growth: Being content with what we do and what he has makes you feel motivated to do the work we are doing. It does not all mean that you must start improving yourself. Try to improve and grow but meanwhile learn to be content with what the situation is.
  1. Mental wellness: Mental wellbeing is important for normal and prosperous life of a person.  Feeling of jealousy makes you feel depressed and mentally sick. It leads to chronic headache and sleeplessness also sometimes. This hinders your overall growth also sometimes. Thus we must be content with what you have.
  2. Bad relations: If you are in a bad mood it ultimately affects your personal lives as well. We often disseminate our anger and frustration on our near and dear ones.  Anger is our biggest enemy. They become the victim of our wrath and ignorant behaviour. If you are not feeling satisfied and happy from within; you show it out also. This worsens your relationship with your kith and kin and disturbs the family life as well.
  3. Bad health: When we are not happy and content we start ignoring our health too. Proper sleep and mental well being is necessary for good physical health as well.  A healthy mind resides in a healthy body. Therefore if we don’t keep our minds balanced it may lead to different types of health diseases like diabetes and blood pressure issues. Thus learn to feel content and satisfied and also be happy to live a sustainable and healthy life.
  4. Social distancing: The nature of a man is highly impacted by his thoughts and mental status. A man who is not content with his belongings means he is feeling jealous looking upon other people and their achievements. Thus he starts behaving immorally or rudely in social life too. It leads to fewer friends. Everyone likes to stay away from such pessimistic people.

Accept yourself, the person and situation as they are.

We often start to change ourselves and be like the people who we think are better than us. This is nothing but just a waste of mental and physical energy.  We must start to feel peace at what we have and about the situation which is beyond our control.

One has to be more compassionate and keep patience. In the race of getting more than other; we often forget ourselves. We forget the joy of celebrating the present. And our whole life is wasted just in tension and comparisons.

The following illustration will help you understand the concept better

There was a person named George. He was addicted to junk food and fast food, and was overweight and unhealthy as well. He bought too many things on impulse, owned too much clutter, and was deeply in debt and struggling to make it to the next payday. He was unhappy with who he was, wanted to change desperately, tried a thousand different programs and books. 

He was always worried as he was missing out on exciting things, and wanted so much to be out doing the fun things everyone else was doing. He was always kept on changing the way he did things, because it seemed everyone else had a better system or tools. He tried to do everything which everyone across him did so that he could achieve his goals and be happy like them.

And as he learned to be content, here was what changed:

He learned to be happy with healthier food, with less food, and his health improved and waistline shrunk. He relied on a good book, spending time with people he loved, going for a nice run … and his debt began to be reduced as he learned he didn’t need to spend money to enjoy. He learned to be happier with who he was, and what he was doing. So he no longer needed to try all kinds of new techniques that were done by others. He became happy with himself and spent leisure time, with those around him, and with what he had — and so didn’t need to strive to change everything. Letting go of goals helped him to simplify things and actually concentrate upon himself with patience. Thus he was self confident and motivated than ever before

How to be content with the present

Cultivate Awareness

The first step towards it is to become aware of your present i.e. think of the things you already have. Think of what you have achieved and the relations you have cherished. Living in the present not only makes us joyous but also be content and satisfied. ‘Acknowledging the present means being grateful for what you have. It can be done by making a list of things for which you are grateful. This practice must be done in the early morning. Write at least 5 things daily for which you are thankful. 

Mindfulness

Few illustrations for which you can be thankful are:

  1. Thanks for the beautiful morning and this life.
  2. Thanks for the fit body and all the organs and senses that are working perfectly.
  3. Thanks for whatever you have achieved in your studies and career
  4. Thanks for the family relations you are blessed with
  5. Thanks for the Job or business you are pursuing.

The gratitude practice has been preached by many scholars and intellectuals. According to them being grateful is the key to happiness. You have to understand that nothing is permanent. All will pass. Instead of resenting one must look forward in life and make the blueprint of success. 

Stop thinking negatively

Just stop thinking of any negative thing, situation or person. Ignore everything that makes you feel down or incompetent. Just concentrate on the good side of the thing and situation.  Reverse your thinking the moment it goes on a negative track

Find the good in you

You just have to concentrate on the little things that give you joy. Think about the pleasant memories . Find the things within you that you are happy with. Explore your qualities and the positive things within you that make you different from others. In short you have to explore yourself and feel happy about everything you have.

Accepting what you can’t change

After becoming aware of what you already have; the next step is creating a broader vision and accepting all the people, situations and things as they are. Try to improve yourself and adapt to the changes but not out of jealousy or comparison but out of self curiosity and personal goals. Do everything you like but for yourself. Try to change and improve yourself but not to copy anyone else but for personal happiness and goals.

Some things are beyond our control. They are pre decided by the divine and we have to trust the almighty. This does not mean that you have to give up and be passive. Improvement is the need of the hour and continuous changes are necessary to sustain on this planet. But whatever you do must be guided by a desire and a goal to be unique. It must not be aimed at becoming someone else.

Practice Patience

Patience means letting the things unfold in their own manner and on their own time. Its no use to become impulsive. Becoming too impulsive and rushing towards something can lead to wrong decisions sometimes. One has to keep patience and trust on the pace of growth. 

Start embracing the moment and trust that whatever you need or desire shall come at its time.  If you start keeping patience and believing in yourself and stay happy everything will start to fall in the right place and you will be there where you desired.

Assume that everything is perfect.

When you assume things to be perfect: they will have to get perfect. Change your thought process. It is your thinking that decides your actions and the future. Start loving yourself. Stop criticizing your present. Tell yourself that you are perfect. Be happy with what you have.

What happens when you start being content:

  1. Feeling grateful: The feeling of content is associated with lots of positivity and happiness.  This makes a man thankful to God and the universe. The feeling of gratitude is the key to more success and empowerment. A man with a positive attitude is sure to achieve great heights. Not only on his career front but he had sweet relations with everyone around.
  2. Growth and success: Feeling of contentment and happiness encourages one to work with more dedication and focus. His productivity increases as he can do all things with a fresh mind and full self confidence. 
  3. Boost of self image: When you start living a satisfied life and stop criticizing yourself ; your self image and confidence gets a great boost.   This helps you build up plans of self improvement and success in your own style and perspective that suits you.
  4. Good health: Being happy from within makes you mentally fit and emotionally strong. It in turns helps you to stay fit and saves you from many types of disease that are caused due to hypertension. Thus you get an overall good health and a fit life.
  5. Good relationships: If you are happy and learn to be content you can be a better person, a good partner and a good parent as well. Your wrath reduces and you become more adjustable and active.  Thus your personal relationships also improve as well.
  6. Relax: you reduce the major part of your thinking by cutting off the negative thoughts; thus you are actually totally free, happy and relaxed. You start getting time for productive things and feel yourself free mentally as well emotionally. You are in a relaxed state of mind and thus you can also manage your routine and tasks in a better way.

Conclusion

Be happy with the little you have. There are people with nothing that still manage to smile .Just let go off the fear and concentrate on what is already here. Take a long breath and smile .This process of thinking might not be easy for some; but it is not difficult. With patience and continuous practice we can fully get control over our thoughts and start living a life full of contentment and happiness.

‘Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.’           ~Lao Tzu

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