The biggest issue in psychological counseling and therapy is that clients and their family members are often unaware of the problem’s root causes as the symptoms are themselves bothersome.
Most of the time, Ritu Singal recalls, behavioral or emotional problems reported by School authorities in their children are the primary reason why parents visit a family counselling center. She says that a child’s problems do not exist in a vacuum, and the reason for their existence and the remedy both, lie in the counseling and eventual healing of the family.
- Length and number of sessions. How long is each session? How often are sessions scheduled? How many sessions should I expect to have?
- Fees and insurance. How much do you charge for each session? Does my health insurance plan cover your family counselling services? Will I need to pay the full fee upfront? What is your policy on canceled sessions?
In many cases, the Life Coach and Family Counsellor observe, family counselling and therapy typically have brought together most of the family members in one room to talk to each probably for the first time in many years.
Just the fact that they can openly talk to each other, respect others’ right to be heard, and politely and patiently put their points of view has solved many of their problems. To make sure that such an absence of communication does not come again in a few days, counselors equip them with tools, exercises, and techniques using which they can check their behavior and suggest others check their help each other come closer.
With the help of a trained life coach and expert counselor, a holistic approach to treating individuals and a family has proven to be effective in most cases. Family therapy lets families work on their issues, under the guidance of a professional, in a safe, private, and controlled environment.
During family therapy, you can see, observe, and expect the following:
- To examine your family’s ability to solve problems together
- To see if all members can express their thoughts and emotions in a helpful and polite manner
- Understand and explore the roles of each member of the family
- Understand and start respecting the rules of a happy family
- Identify and pinpoint the behavior patterns contributing to conflict and learn ways to manage them
- Family counselling help find the strengths of the family and how each one can support others
- A better understanding of boundaries, private spaces, and dislikes of each member
- Better, more effective communication
- More profound empathy for family members with troubles and problems
- Anger management skills to help avoid explosive situations
- Help the family positively mourn and come out of grief by bringing them together
- Creating honesty and instilling trust in family members for each other;
- Family counselling helps family members forgive each other and express heartfelt gratitude
Why Life Coach?
Family counsellors and therapists have to deal with great care as every person in the group in a family counselling session can upstage the whole process at any time. They must realize the scope of their work, the gravity of the situation, and their effect on clients’ and families’ lives.
Life coaches and family counsellors are trained, certified, and licensed life coaches and family therapists. She had helped many families during their crisis period when they were suggested to undergo family counselling due to great upheavals in their lives.
She has helped numerous couples, their children, and their parents respect each other and listen to them. She has maintained the utmost privacy to safeguard the trust reposed in her.
A family therapist will not tell you what to do; instead, she will help you find your problems and solutions.
Family counselling sessions’ outcomes depend on the commitment, level of participation, integrity, and honesty on the part of all family members. The scientific and psychological tools, techniques, and exercises help you monitor and track your milestones.
Your expectations, circumstances, emotions, desires, and needs all play a role in what you get out of any family counselling session and the overall exercise.
- Education and experience. What is your educational and training background? Does the state license you? Are you accredited by the AAMFT or other professional organizations? Do you have specialty training in family psychotherapy? What is your experience with my family’s type of problem?
- Location and availability. Where is your office? What are your office hours? Are you available in case of an emergency?
In family counselling and therapy, the family does not only mean blood relatives but also people who play a long-term supportive role in anyone’s life. It can be divided into these most common types:
- Bowenian – best suited for situations where an individual doesn’t want to involve other family members. It is based on concepts of triangulation (the natural tendency to vent or de-stress by talking to a third party) and differentiation (learning to become less emotionally reactive);
- Structural – It focuses on adjusting and strengthening the family system to bring the parents in control and respect their boundaries. The therapist observes the family from close quarters to learn about the issues and help the family;
- Systemic – It focuses on the subconscious and non-verbal communications and meanings behind the behaviors of family members. The therapist is distant and allows the members to delve more in-depth into their family issues.
- Strategic – It is brief and direct where the therapist assigns homework (practical work-related and something to note down) to family members. It is intended to alter the family interactions where the therapist takes the position of power.
Therefore, a family therapist may have to perform many different roles and requires a great deal of training, formal education, and license to ensure that he or she is capable of handling such delicate matters.
Every therapist, whatever training they have undergone, whatever methods they apply, and whatever treatment techniques they prefer during family counselling, must ensure, at the minimum, the treatment of:
- Child and adolescent behavioral problems
- Severe differences of opinion due to generational gaps
- Discord arising due to children marrying out of family traditions
- Depression and anxiety
- Sexuality and gender fluidity issues
- Abusive behavior and domestic violence
- Sexual harassment and abuse
- Infertility and childlessness
- Marital conflicts
- Extra-marital affairs and infidelity
- Substance abuse
- Personal conflicts within couples or families
- Unexpected and terminal illness
- Unemployment and financial losses
- Rekindling a healthy romantic relationship
- Divorce or separation
Life Coach employs the below-listed procedures and tools to understand and help the families that have come to her for family counselling sessions:
- Observe how family members interact in isolation, with other members, and with others
- Ask a question from specially designed questionnaires and record their responses
- Evaluate and resolve relationship problems;
- Guide clients through transitional crises such as divorce or death
- Identify problematic relational or behavioral patterns and suggest ways to step out of them or manage them
- Help substitute dysfunctional behaviors with constructive and positive alternatives
- Take a holistic mind, body, and soul approach to wellness
Family therapy can help your loved ones and improve your relationship with your partner, children, parents, siblings, and other family members. Family counselling is not a substitute or a replacement for individual therapy for any of your family members.
It helps and supplements the person’s therapy and helps them with the family’s support and love that may otherwise be missing. With family therapy, we can ensure faster recovery for the person undergoing individual treatment and counseling.
As the famous Chinese philosopher, Confucius has said,
“To put the world right in order, we must first put the nation in order;
to put the nation in order, we must first put the village in order;
to put the village in order, we must first put the family in order;
to put the family in order, we must first cultivate our personal life;
we must first set our hearts right.”
The primary aims and goals of family counselling are dependent on the problems described by the clients. Every family is different, and therefore their dreams of attending counseling will also be different. There is no one-size-fits-all scenario here, and every session is custom and tailor-made to meet the clients’ and their families’ requirements. For example, consider these scenarios where goals may differ:
- One of your family members is diagnosed with severe psychosis or bipolar disorder. Family counselling aims to align the support and understanding of all members to help the patient and channel his/her energies for positive change. This goal has to be met with the least disruption to the work-life balance of other family members and gaining maximum support at the same time.
- With the generational communication gap where the couple became parents too late in life or are conservative or grandparents live together in a joint family or grandparents raising children. The goal is to thaw the frozen communication and make both or all generations involved understand and respect the person’s boundaries and limitations in front of them.
- Families that do not fit in the “normal family” brackets of society, such as live-in couples and their children, same-sex couples with adopted children, and single parents raising a child, etc. have to face many coping problems, societal exclusions, and biases. Family counselling aims to help the members understand that they are different in the family’s external structure and not as human beings and help them learn how to deal with bullies and hostile societal attitudes.
- Families, where the sound comes from different racial, ethnic, religious, cultural, linguistic, or other backgrounds, have difficulty adjusting to the needs and expectations. Here, the goal of family counselling is to help the family, especially the new member, understand each other, accept and respect diversity, and develop healthy relationships.