Parent-Child Relations: A Guide to Raising Children

Earlier the parents contribute to the education and career development than helping to install their family life and achievement of goals. The parents ought to teach good moral values, a sense of civic responsibility, and discipline to their kids. In today’s era, there are many means by which the children get diverted and go on the wrong track. Thus the parents have to play the dual role of a parent as well as a friend to help them cope up in the present world.

Why is a strong parent-child relationship important?

• A good bond between parents and children for the growth and development of the children and also for their overall personality development and lifelong happiness. The quality of upbringing decides the mental and physical health status of a human being largely.
• Anyone who enjoys a good relationship with his parents is sure to exhibit good relations with friends, peers, and other associates also. They exhibit good social behavior too.
• They can manage situations of stress and emergencies in a more better and intelligent way.
• A Healthy involvement of parents in the day to day routine of children help them to perform better in academics.
• The children who are nurtured properly by their parents not only become responsible for their families but the community as a whole. Their sense of duty and responsibility helps them in all the spheres of life.

Parental counseling can help you not only understand the emotional needs of the child, but it also enables you to understand your needs and limitations and healthily address them all.

Being a mother herself, Life Coach Ritu Singal often tells her own experience with her daughter. She says, “When my daughter was young, she used to complain about a lot of things like she doesn’t like her school bus driver, her teacher is not good, etc.”

“As most parents would do, I also used to tell her that things don’t work this way in real life. She has to ‘learn to manage’ things, and she can’t be finding fault with everyone.”

She continues, “After a little while I started getting this kind of response from my daughter – ‘You mean I am at fault?’ or ‘Mom, don’t you trust me?’”

This is when she feels like her daughter is going away from her.

One day, after the parent-teacher meeting, when she saw her waiting, all scared and anxious that now “Mumma is going to scold me,” she knew that this is not the time for scolding or punishments as that changes nothing.

She understood that the responsibility of making her daughter a nice person is her responsibility. The importance of parents’ counseling and guidance was evident to her.

Therefore, instead of rebuke, she said to her daughter, “Your teacher likes you, and she said that you are one of her brilliant students, and if you are a little more careful, you can do wonders.”

This positive feedback made her daughter more receptive and responsive and made her understand what was expected from her.

Ritu’s daughter soon started taking care of her things and became way more organized and alert. Today she is working as a successful senior executive in an MNC.

This personal story has one lesson: making a child emotionally healthy and stable is the parents’ responsibility.

Emotionally disturbed children are more vulnerable to emotional, physical, or even sexual abuse by others.

They exhibit more aggression or go into complete seclusion, sometimes without any apparent reasons. They may shout even when not provoked or be awkwardly quiet even when it is provoking.

This behavior is challenging for the parents and anyone around them, and people start labeling the child as “unruly,” “dumb,” or “psycho.”

With parent-child relationship counseling, it is possible to gain the lost trust, confidence, and mend broken relationships.