You may also feel or know that you are lacking somewhere and feel guilty about the situation! But you even don’t know what it is or what to do or about it, or how can you manage it?
We “live” our lives; we are never “taught” or “coached” for life.
You may be cynical and wonder, “Now, after all these years, I need guidance on how to live my life. Is something wrong with you?”
Just remember that as anyone can “beat” a drum or “swing” a bat, it takes coaching and practice under watchful eyes to become an A. Rahman or a Sachin Tendulkar.
If we didn’t need Life coaching, then why are so many things wrong with our life? Why are our relations with our kids not improving? Why do we feel we have lost their trust, or have they lost confidence in themselves?
There must be something that we are not doing right! And, need a Life Coach and a Counsellor to tell us what it is and how to do course correction.
Parental counselling can help you not only understand the emotional needs of the child but also enables you to understand your needs and limitations and healthily address them all.
Being a mother herself, Life Coach Ritu Singal often tells her own experience with her daughter. She says, “When my daughter was young, she used to complain about a lot of things like she doesn’t like her school bus driver, her teacher is not good, etc.”
“As most parents would do, I also used to tell her that things don’t work this way in real life. She has to ‘learn to manage’ things, and she can’t be finding fault with everyone.”
She continues, “After a little while I started getting this kind of response from my daughter – ‘You mean I am at fault?’ or ‘Mom, don’t you trust me?’”
This is when she feels like her daughter is going away from her.
One day, after the parent-teacher meeting, when she saw her waiting, all scared and anxious that now “Mumma is going to scold me,” she knew that this is not the time for scolding or punishments as that changes nothing.
She understood that the responsibility of making her daughter a nice person is her responsibility. The importance of parents’ counselling and guidance was evident to her.
Therefore, instead of rebuke, she said to her daughter, “Your teacher likes you, and she said that you are one of her brilliant students, and if you are a little more careful, you can do wonders.”
This positive feedback made her daughter more receptive and responsive and made her understand what was expected from her.
Ritu’s daughter soon started taking care of her things and became way more organized and alert. Today she is working as a successful senior executive in an MNC.
This personal story has one lesson: making a child emotionally healthy and stable is the parents’ responsibility.
Emotionally disturbed children are more vulnerable to emotional, physical, or even sexual abuse by others.
They exhibit more aggression or go into complete seclusion, sometimes without any apparent reasons. They may shout even when not provoked or be awkwardly quiet even when it is provoking.
This behaviour is challenging for the parents and anyone around them, and people start labelling the child as “unruly,” “dumb,” or “psycho.”
With parent-child relationship counselling, it is possible to gain the lost trust, confidence, and mend broken relationships.
- When we plan to seek professional child counselling for your child’s emotional health, our family members tell us “not to worry, it happens.” They try to convince you that you are being stupid and not making kids “strong” for the world.
- Life Coach has one piece of advice for parents in doubt – When it comes to your child’s emotional well-being, it’s better to be “stupid” than “sorry.”
- And, by “stupid,” she means not to ignore your concerns and to take them to someone who is trained to understand and help with such issues.
- You are the smartest person in the room if you seek help when stuck, and not a “stupid.”