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As I sat with Shivangi, discussing her thoughts on a recent event, I realized the importance of perspective in shaping our experiences. She shared with me her envy of Saurav’s new car, gifted by his elder brother, and how it made her feel like she was missing out.

A Shift in Perspective

Shivangi’s question, “Why not think like this – wish you had enough money to gift your brother a car?” made me pause. It highlighted the difference between focusing on what we get from others and what we can do for others. This simple shift in perspective can have a profound impact on our well-being and relationships.

The SIN and SUN Analogy

A clever wordplay sums it up nicely: “When I comes between S and N, it becomes SIN. When U comes between S and N, it becomes SUN.” This analogy illustrates the difference between focusing on ourselves and focusing on others.

When we prioritize our own needs and desires, we can create negative emotions and experiences. However, when we focus on what we can do for others, we can become like the sun, shining brightly and positively impacting those around us.

Checkout: A glimpse of my book I Decided Not to Cry

The Power of Small Actions

I realized that I often get caught up in thinking about massive social issues and feel overwhelmed, wondering how I can make a difference. However, this mindset can also stop us from taking small actions in our daily lives that can positively impact others. By shifting our perspective and focusing on what we can do for others, we can create a ripple effect of kindness and positivity.

A Journey to Positivity

Through this conversation with Shivangi, I learned the importance of perspective and its impact on our experiences. By choosing to focus on what we can do for others, we can create a more positive and fulfilling life. As I reflect on my own journey, I realize that small actions and a shift in perspective can lead to significant positive changes.

About the Author

Ritu Singal is a life coach with extensive experience in conflict resolution and emotional resilience. Through her work, she empowers individuals to build emotional resilience and navigate life’s challenges with confidence and determination.

Are you truly willing to endure this hit to improve your mental health from a mental coach? Because right now, what I am going to tell you will change your idea of mental health and life… It’s not what you want to hear. It’s what you need to hear.

But before we get into it, let me explain how I, Ritu Singal, work.

I do this as my purpose and not merely as a profession. That’s why I will be direct and blunt, with no sugarcoating.

If you want someone to listen to your same problem more than 100 times with no initiative to solve it, then I am not the one for you. You need a best friend, not a life coach.

Yes, it will fill my pockets listening to you talk about the same problem over and over again. But life coaching isn’t my only income. I have 3 other companies too — one is a leather manufacturing company, and the other is a real estate company. Plus, I am a keynote speaker and an author. Coaching isn’t all about money for me.

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Yes, if you’re dealing with learned helplessness, paralyzing guilt, anxiety, and procrastination, I will help you change your mindset and transform your habits. However, you ought to do the work — only then can we get ahead.

Chekout: Why should you consider attending online life coach counseling sessions?

Transform Your Life: Coaching for Clarity, Confidence, and Success

But remember, I am not your psychologist. I am not here to diagnose your mental illness or tell you why you behave the way you do, or focus on clinical performance. I am no doctor. I am a person with a solution-oriented yet empathetic approach, certified by the John Maxwell Team of Life Coaches.

Plus, if you’ve read my book “I Decided Not to Cry”, you know why and how I became a mental health coach.
I’ve watched my mother suffer from mental illness. I’ve also treated and transformed 100+ lives.

Emotional Honesty: Letting Go of Overthinking

Here’s something I’ve noticed with many of my clients — they keep justifying their behaviour based on their past. They keep telling me why they are the way they are because of something that happened to them in childhood. Past experiences do play an important role in shaping our present. But if you believe that you are going to remain the same for the rest of your life because of that one incident, then that’s not fair to you or to the people who love you.

Would you let your child not play with somebody just because a toddler said they didn’t do things properly? Then why do you do it to yourself?

I know your life has been a repeat of recovering from the same unpleasant event. There are patterns in your life. A baby falls so many times when it’s learning to walk again, yet a baby smiles. No one says that the baby is stupid or not smart for learning how to climb up. Then why are you judging yourself for doing so? Why do you put yourself down?

In this process of learning how to get out from your paralysed old wounds, you will fall — over and over and over again.
But I will be like your mother — guiding you and cheering for you at each step.
But you will have to be like that cheerful baby.
You will have to stop being hard on yourself.
And I will teach you how to be kind to yourself.
I will teach you how to separate yourself from the clutter that you have in your head.

But will you stop yourself from playing and enjoying because you need to be “healed”?

I’ve seen people on the other end of the spectrum, where they get so absorbed by self-improvement and healing, they don’t allow themselves to enjoy or go for big things in life because they feel they are not ready for it.

Let’s break myths: You don’t need to be fully healed to start living

You don’t have to be fully healed. There will always be something you will need healing from. But if you’re not taking the right steps towards healing, then it is a problem.

Perfectionism is the biggest killer of healing, as clients want to be perfectly healed and they keep sabotaging life.
There will be more problems in life. Problems in life won’t end — otherwise, what is the fun of life?
The idea is to find joy in the chaos, with your head in the sky.

I am here to tell you — you will make it in life.
Be open to change and embrace happiness and opportunities when they knock at your door.
Like right now, you have the opportunity to be coached by me or to take sessions from someone else to help you level up in life.

And if finance is your problem, remember I am a business coach and entrepreneur of three successful companies.
I can help you build financial discipline and learn how to make the most out of your work.
To know more, you can check my website.

Do you have a fear of the phrase “family and marriage counselling”? You may wonder, “Why is it necessary? Do you picture a group of family members fighting in front of a therapist? Do you feel the goosebumps of it? I, Ritu Singal, am here to help you break free of your patterns.

No, marriage counselling is not what you imagine it to be. Marriage and family counselling is about addressing family problems directly. It is about finding solutions that tie the family together.  You may wonder, “Why is it necessary? How will it benefit us?” Let me, Ritu Singal, show you why and dive deeper into it.

You visit the doctor when you are sick. You go to the gym to build up the mental muscle of your body. You eat right and healthy to keep your body clean.

Yet you feel ashamed when you have to go and heal your mind with a therapist. Yet you don’t challenge the negative aspects and thoughts in your relationships and build a muscle of resilience. Yet you don’t practice and engage in the art of healthy relationships.

Family Counselling: Not Just for Broken Families

Healthy relationships is what keeps families together. But what happens when there are cracks in this relationship? Who saves whom?

In an office context, the HR or sometimes the manager handles the issue. 

Who handles it in your case? Is the HR in your family biased?

Every family faces challenges, but not all families have the answers. Are you still a “what will people say person’’?

Do you ever think to go and find solutions for your family? What blinds you from actually taking decisions in your family?

People usually have this misconception that family counselling is for broken families.In actuality, however, family counselling is for actual families. Real families have disputes, occasional rifts, different stressors from different members, and of course, the occasional awkward talk.

However, dysfunctional patterns are on a scale of 1 to 10. In some families, there are more dysfunctional patterns, and others less.

What does dysfunction consist of?
Physical abuse
Verbal abuse
Sexual abuse
Drug problems
Alcohol or any sort of addiction problem

So what is family counselling? Is it here to prove who is right and who is wrong? We are here to get into the root of your problems Dysfunctional family patterns have several different types of people:

Perpetrator – The one who creates the chaos

Enabler – The one who enables the chaos

Peacemaker – The one who ensures peace in the family

Scapegoat – The child blamed for all of the dysfunction

Lost child – The child who is the most unseen in the family

Golden child – The overly pampered child

When one understands these patterns, one can figure out a way to break free from them. But it isn’t easy, as everybody wants to play a role in blaming others. That’s when it gets confusing and harsher towards each other.

The goal of family counselling is not to tell who is at fault but rather how to nip the evil in the bud.

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Why Choose Me, Ritu Singal?

I grew up with a dysfunctional mother who had a mental illness since I was born. She would keep getting fits and throwing rage tantrums.

My husband, the late Vikas, too had his own mental health issues. He was aggressive, defensive, and because of that, he committed suicide due to a business loss of 50–60 crores.

My children, who were facing the aftermath of my late husband’s cheating and aggressiveness, suffered the brunt and I saw them having panic attacks.

From that time, I decided that I wouldn’t cry or bend over backwards. I learnt business from scratch. Then I turned the 50–60 crore loss into becoming an award-winning entrepreneur in 2011. I have mentioned this in my book I Decided Not to Cry. I discovered life coaching too and i went on to become to a certified john mawell life coach Family counselling and more What I have noticed as a life coach is that If you go to see, in every family, an apple doesn’t fall far from its tree. Children not only inherit the genetic DNA of their parents but also the mental DNA.

Checkout:  Transform Your Life, Transform Yourself

We all have learned behaviours—even if you say you aren’t as rude or as cruel as your family, you still have some similar mannerisms. The way you perceive and approach situations. The way you get panic attacks just like your mom does.

Most of the time, you don’t realise the behaviours you have adopted from people around you.

Expected Outcomes

In 90 %+ of my cases, families have come together!

During family therapy, we examine, teach problem-solving, validate each one’s emotions, explore each one’s roles, pinpoint toxic behavioural patterns and ways to manage them, understand the roles in each dynamic, teach anger management, and encourage effective communication. Each session is tailored to give maximum benefits.

You don’t need to be utterly shattered to go for counselling. You just have to be real. To know more, visit my website

We all love getting the latest iPhone, the newest car, or the trendiest app, but how often do we update ourselves? We don’t put in nearly as much effort. That’s what being the best version of yourself is really about—constantly evolving and upgrading to the highest version of who you can be.

But here’s the real question: Why are you striving for this? Are you doing it for validation from others, or are you doing it for yourself? What’s truly driving your self-improvement?

Many people chase success just to prove others wrong. In the process, they fall into cycles of self-loathing, pity, procrastination, or even self-sabotage due to external pressures.

Motivational videos and even celebrity speeches often glorify this mindset, making it seem like pain and struggle are the only paths to success. But this is a cry of performance—a deeply rooted fear of failure and a constant need for external validation. No matter how much you achieve, you won’t feel truly happy because you’re operating from this fear-driven mindset.

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• Compare yourself to others constantly
• Feel like you’re never good enough unless you’re productive
• Fear failure so much that it controls your actions

This often stems from childhood experiences—being compared, criticized, or put in situations beyond your control. Maybe you were only praised when you were productive, shaping how you see success today.

But true greatness comes when you break free from this mindset and start living for yourself.

That’s where I come in.

I’m Ritu Singal—a life coach, business coach, and entrepreneur managing three companies, while still making time for my family and self-care.

If I can do it, so can you. Let me help you train your mindset, break free from the cry of performance, and unlock the best version of yourself.

Are you ready to upgrade YOU?

Being the Best Version of Yourself Isn’t Just About Your Career

Let me share with you the story of a woman who found herself lost in marriage.

She was a smart, highly educated woman who initially had a beautiful relationship with her husband. They were in love, and everything seemed perfect. But over time, as their responsibilities grew, she had kids, had to take care of her extended family, and became consumed with managing the household, her newborn babies, and her extended family. This eventually led her to lose herself in the process, neglecting self-care.

She was expected to put the needs of others above her own, and she accepted her fate. At first, she didn’t seem to mind. She became the self-sacrificing woman she always was. But as time passed, she realized something was missing.

Conflicts began arising from small disagreements, and she found her voice fading. Being the best version of herself meant that she had to find her voice, find time for herself, and grow.

Some women react quickly, understanding what happened and fighting back. Others need time. Trauma is complex, and it has various biological, psychological, and situational factors.

Through counseling and personal growth programs, she started rediscovering herself. It wasn’t an overnight transformation—it took months of rigorous psychological techniques and deep self-reflection. Change doesn’t happen instantly, but she was determined.

Over time, she regained her confidence and finally decided to become the best version of herself.

She started earning and taking care of her financial needs. Even her husband, whose love had faded under the weight of responsibilities, began noticing her again and stopped taking her time and love for granted. But this change didn’t happen easily. At first, she had to face even more resistance, taunts, and emotional challenges from her family.

Eventually, her efforts paid off. She stood up for herself, set boundaries, and prioritized self-respect. She started to see that love was important, but it wasn’t as important as self-love. When you put yourself first, others start valuing you too.

The Key Lesson: Love Yourself First

Love is important, but being the best version of yourself is essential too. Whether you’re a teenager, a mother, a father, or a grandparent, becoming the best version of yourself can take you places and help you receive the love and respect you deserve.

True love begins with self-respect. If you learn how to love yourself, the world will love you too. However, there will be days when you don’t like yourself, and that’s okay. But never forget to love and respect yourself.

If you find yourself struggling with self-love, you can take my counseling sessions. Let’s work together to unlock the best version of YOU.

The real stress management training? It’s life itself — how you deal with it.

Sure, you can take courses, learn mindfulness, do the breathing. But honestly? None of it matters unless you actually use it in real-life situations. That’s why I, Ritu Singal, only work with clients who are serious about making changes.

Yes, you’ll learn how to stay calm when you’re under pressure. But if you don’t shift your overall mindset, you’re going to stay stuck. That’s the hard truth. That’s why I don’t just teach stress management — I go deeper.

Most people live either in the past or in the future. They’re either stuck thinking, “Why did I say that?”, “I should’ve done this,” or they’re worried about what might go wrong.

But the truth? The now is all you really have. Your power lies in the here and now.

Start simple. Write down what needs to be done. Pick one thing. Do just that. Stay with it. Don’t check your phone, don’t start another thing. Just focus. And when your mind races — because it will — try playing soft music in the background. It calms your system.

Still restless? That’s fine. Set aside time to actually feel your emotions. Not think about them. Not suppress them. Feel them. Cry, journal, breathe — do what you need to.

Other hacks that help? Chewing gum. Using a stress ball. Touching something warm like tea or coffee — and just sitting with it. Let the heat absorb some of your stress. Here’s a brief breathing exercise: take two breaths, then release them. Works wonders when everything feels overwhelming.

if you’re out walking and your thoughts spiral, try focusing on your feet touching the ground. Feel the step. It’s grounding — literally.

Here’s a brief breathing exercise: take two breaths, then release them. 

Go if you’re fortunate enough to live close to a beach.If not, find a park. Trees and fresh air can do more for your mind than any screen.

Your focus is also tied to how you treat your body. Move. Walk. Dance. Do yoga. Anything that gets your body going. Because if you’re physically unwell, your energy and focus will suffer. That’s just how it is.

Checkout: Mental Health: The Matters That Matter

And food — yes, eat healthy. But even that’s not enough for some. You might be eating something your body’s allergic to and not even know it. That messes with your clarity. So if you can, get an allergy test or even a vitamin test. It could change everything.

Let’s talk affirmations. Most people repeat, “I’m confident,” “I’m strong,” “I can do anything” — and then go back to doubting themselves five minutes later.

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The real affirmations? They happen when that voice in your head says, “I can’t do this,” and you reply, “Yes, I can.” Or even, “Maybe not yet — but I’ll figure it out.”

Stop saying “I’ll try.” It’s vague. Weak. Either you do it, or you don’t. Face your challenges directly, and just do the work. Don’t push it to tomorrow.

Time management is something I swear by. As someone who runs three companies, I’ve learned that nothing beats time and discipline. And now I know some of you might be thinking, “But Ritu Ma’am, you don’t know how much pressure I have.” I do.

I discuss in my autobiography  how I decided not to break. My husband, who had cheated on me, died by suicide after losing 50 to 60 crores in business. I didn’t know anything about business; I was a housewife. But I learned. I turned my daughter’s life around. I turned my life around.

That’s why my autobiography sold out. That’s how I became a life coach. And that’s why I’m telling you — your story can change too.

This journey? It’s ongoing. I’m still walking it. But I’ve come far. And you can too.

If you’re ready to stop being stuck, follow these steps. And if you’re serious about changing your life — visit my website, and take a look at my story