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Are you scratching the surface merely by surviving instead of living?
Have you tried building habits but still fall back?
Do you have specific goals in life that you want to take to the next level?
Is your plan aligned with increasing accountability?
Do you see yourself as a star but barely meet daily struggles?

Then you are at the right place! You have the power to grow & improve your life by 10x!

Success is only sometimes a man’s play. We all need help . Any little kid needs the support of elders to learn how to walk . A husband needs the help of his wife to form a great relationship. A business owner needs his staff’s help to scale his business. Cricket teams need coaches to help them succeed.

We all are dependent creatures. Even the eco-system is interdependent. Asking for help is a brave thing to do. However,asking for help from the right person is the smartest way to succeed. That’s what separates the best from the rest.Knowing the where, what, where & how is the most important aspect of it. Suppose you have already booked your session!

Kudos to you, brave human! You shall be braver! I will only guide you; you will be the one setting the trajectory of your life. You can rely on me even when you feel like you are falling. That’s what I am here to give you!

But how do you go about this? What are counselling sessions like? Will online counselling sessions benefit you? You might feel the uncertainty drowning within you! It is completely valid. I, Ritu Singal, am here to answer those questions for you!

Let me make myself clear. This process is not about avoiding obstacles or building against them. It is as challenging as others. It is only lesser than the pain you imagine to be like. You can get to choose your struggle in life.

The battle of overcoming your obstacles & tasting success.Or the effort of running away from hurt & living in misery.

Tasting success demands failure. Healing is not a straight line. It is crooked with ups & downs. Success is not a destination; it is a process. It is this process where I will provide mentoring to you, aid you in identifying goals & map out your journey.

I will constantly monitor & review your approach. If you are in the mindset that this is a session for instant results, then please quit thinking that. I am not here to sell you some course or agenda. I am here to provide service to you in the boundaries of mental health counseling sessions.

You may find other motivational coaches saying that you can change within a week. You may even feel you are changing, but you will come back to square one.

It takes 21 days to build a habit & 90 days to create a lifestyle. You took years to form such habits; you will need some time to get better than this. The fact that you have read this demonstrates the desire .

A battle won in the head is already half-won. Add a little bit of positive psychology and counselling sessions & it is almost done. Be it your financial, personal, or self-improvement goals.

If you want to prepare more before coming to the online counseling sessions, I would request you to prepare the following. Be prepared to be vulnerable . Addressing your challenges requires you to look them in the eye. Once you name it or when I find it, then we can go further.

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I want you to set realistic expectations for yourself. We will set goals for you. But if you get disheartened by your unrealistic goals, you may lose motivation!

What will be the benefit of life coaching? After life coaching or during the process itself, you will able to look at the most confident version of yourself in the mirror.

Your self-awareness & accountability will increase. You won’t be ashamed of who you were & who you are! The quality of your relationships will also considerably increase. Thus with clarity on your life & relationships, your purpose will be more visible. You shall have lower stress levels & this will add magic to your life.

My duty as a life coach is to help you become the best version of yourself in your personal or professional life. Consider me as the architect of your life. Or consider me a power you have to outsource to build a new life!

 I create & reshape the building blocks of your life. You can introspect through me as I build the partnerships of your life. Don’t expect these counselling sessions to be larger than life. Expect it to be a 10x improved life! Visit my website to witness testimonials & big achievements of my life. Are you ready to create history?

Thank you for reading this blog!

I am Ritu Singal, a life coach. In this blog, I am going to talk about what makes me the best life coach for you, no matter where you are in life or what you are going through.

The reason I call myself the best life coach for you is simple- I love my work as a life coach and am passionate about helping people like you progress in their lives.

I am an ardent believer in the process- the journey’s end is just that, an end. My firm belief as a life coach is that one should not just progress in life but also enjoy life to the maximum.

Here are some reasons, in detail, why you should choose me as your life guide-

Start enjoying the journey, not just the result with me

The only thing we have control over is the process, what process we follow, how we do it, and why we do it. 

Getting results, and not enjoying them, in my opinion, is not a wise thing to do. One should learn to trust and enjoy the process, in order to make the most of what we have.

Of course, people can and should have their opinions on these topics, but for people whose thoughts align with mine- congratulations! There is a high success ratio of such clients who work with me, and believe in me.

I am a person who is passionate and ambitious about helping people succeed, especially after what I went through in my life.

That being said, here is what I went through in life, in order to-

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Be your go-to person for empathy, not for sympathy or advisor

In today’s world, many people can only offer sympathy and advice, but very rarely do people offer you empathy. 

I am a person who has gone through a lot, and I tell you this not to incite feelings, but to make you feel comfortable with me.

I can offer you empathy, something that everyone deserves after a hard time fighting their battles out there.

I realize that not everyone may need words of encouragement after having fought a battle, what are some words after the battle is over?

But I know that sometimes all people need is an acknowledgment of having fought the battle tooth and nail.

I was once where you are now

Here is a brief of my life story-

I was happily married to a businessman and had a happy family with him and our two daughters until the day he started cheating on me.

All the happiness, at the time I realized he was cheating on me, began seeming like a life of lies I had led till now.

The business boomed, while my heart went into an emotional shock.

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I went through these issues, sometimes alone, sometimes while having a shoulder to cry on. But always having a heavy heart.

Finally, when it became apparent to my cheating husband that his mistress had used him for money and favors, he shot himself to death.

Even if he was a cheater, in the end, I was emotionally and mentally shattered. His death wasn’t the only thing I had to cope with, I also had to take care of the now failing business, due to the multitude of court cases on our company and the number of loans my husband took earlier when he was still alive.

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It was a tough journey to be here, where I am today, but somehow, still, with my two lovely daughters, I persevered.

Today, I am a successful life coach, working hard to make your life a happier one as well.

Struggles are faced by everyone, what are struggles our, don’t matter. What matters is how we face them, and whether we are satisfied with the result.

I was also once where you are now, struggling in life. And let me tell you something as personal advice, my life would have been a lot better if I had someone like my future self to guide my past self.

Why I, Ritu Singal, should be your life coach?

I can help you enjoy this beautiful journey filled with struggles called life. Enjoying life is more challenging with all the problems we are facing, but as we saw, it is something that should not and never be avoided, just for its difficulties.

I understand the value of empathy when one person talks about their struggles with the other. One should focus more on reaffirming their actions, and help people accept their actions and issues rather than giving them fluffy advice to deal with it, something which no one wants as the first thing.

I struggled a lot in life as well. I had a cheating husband who committed suicide, and the shock of it may have left my system, even after I moved on with my life, it is something that affects me to this day.

Life isn’t easy, life is never easy. However, it is more on how we look at it rather than what it is. People from different backgrounds are bound to have different perceptions, and I just hope I can change yours for the better.

I would like to end this note from me to you on a positive note by giving you hope- life is not, never wasted. It all depends on how you look at it.

And if you want to look at it from glasses that are neither rose-tinted nor black-shaded, you should book a consultation call with me, to explore how we can work together on your journey!

Modern relationship problems, nowadays, require modern solutions like marriage counseling.

As a life coach, I (Ritu Singal) often wonder what would have happened had a life coach been there to guide me when I was going through a difficult phase with my now departed husband, who died to suicide.

I definitely wish I had consulted a life coach when I could, maybe then my husband would have been well and alive today, maybe then my marriage with him wouldn’t have ended on such a dark note.

In this blog, I will first start with explaining why I say that a marriage counselor would have helped in my marriage, and then move on to reasons why other couples may require marriage counseling.

How a marriage counselor / life coach could have helped my marriage

I was a happily married woman until the birth of my two daughters. However, at a point in time, my husband started having an affair with another woman, which totally shattered me mentally and emotionally and drained me of my feelings of self worth and confidence.

I knew everything about how he was cheating on me, and treating me as an acquired but now useless trophy. I wish I had confronted him openly then and taken the help of a marriage counselor, to improve the conditions of my marriage, and my life.

It would have definitely improved my quality of life tenfold and maybe even saved the lives of my husband and my marriage.

A life coach could have guided us to make the choice that would have been better for both of us. 

Why you may need a marriage counselor?

There are many reasons why you may need a marriage counselor to help with the trouble in paradise between you, and your spouse. A life coach / counselor can help guide you in thinking rationally about your choices and ultimately in making the right decision best for both the parties.

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Trivial Relationship problems 

Problems in any kind of relationship are inevitable, one cannot avoid them entirely.

However, for modern relationship problems involving a couple in love or bound by the holy band of marriage, life coaches can be a lifesaver

They can help you think rationally about the past, present and future of your relationship. If you feel stuck, they can help guide you through the necessary thoughts and actions you need to think upon to take the relationship forward.

These problems can be trivial matters like you not liking one of their habits, or them not liking parts of your personality, which may lead you both to avoid each other like the drought

Making your relationship stronger

Life coaching is like therapy, wherein you don’t always need to go there for problems with relationships, but you can also go there to focus your relationship more on the positive aspects of the things. 

You might be in a calm relationship now, but if you aren’t happy, then that relationship isn’t fulfilling its purpose.

In any relationship, especially those which we choose by ourselves, we need to make sure that both you and the other party enjoy it thoroughly, or it becomes just another chore to complete in life.

Life is supposed to be enjoyed, not slugged along with, to whichever tune is currently playing.

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Dealing with partners who cheat

Cheating spouses are also a huge problem in modern times, and a marriage counselor can help you in deciding how to best tackle the issue and approach your partner about it.

Many people will try to hide their cheating and lie to cover up their tracks, not realizing that this only goes on to make the problems worse for both of them.

No one wants their partner to cheat, almost everyone would be happy to correct their ways and even adjust their own personality rather than losing their significant other to cheating problems.

Marriage counselors can help in such a case, by facilitating communication and making sure both parties understand and respect each other’s point of views.

Enhancing trust between you and your partner

It sometimes happens that after the rosy period of your marriage life, the trust in the relationship begins to deteriorate, and if not resolved as soon as possible, it can make your life dry and suck the joy out from your marriage.

It is my job as a life coach to save you from that situation by helping you formulate and implement strategies which can help you enhance the trust between you and your partner.

I do this by helping partners sit and spend time together, and talk about how they may be doing the relationship justice, and how they may correct the things they are doing wrong.

Bringing a new energy to your relationship

After the aforementioned rosy period, even if the partners trust each other, they might not be as invested in each other as they earlier were. In order to help the couples cope through this and renew their love and interest for each other.

This can help refill the relationship with love, concern and genuine curiosity about each other’s lives and days without them. 

A new relationship losing its sheen is nothing to be excessively worried about, all couples experience it at one point or the other.

However, despite knowing that they are losing their interest, if the couple doesn’t act to save the relationship, then there may be bigger issues later on.

How can I, Ritu Singal, help you and your partner in building a better relationship and lives for yourselves?

I, Ritu Singal, have undergone a lot of pain and suffering in life, which have changed my perspective on life. I don’t want to brag, just want to inspire you by telling you that these difficulties pass, and they make you a better person along the way.

However, if you ever feel lonely or unable to handle these situations by yourself, I highly encourage you to seek help and find yourself someone who provides life coaching, like I do.

I can help you with understanding your partner better, maintaining trust and also getting your control of your life and marriage back on track into the hands of you and your partner.

Just like the numerous things I never expected I would do, writing a book that is a compilation of waves of different facets of my life was one of them. I have had the opportunity to educate, empower and guide individuals from different walks of life but now I feel even more grateful to hold an opportunity to share with you the stories of my life, almost all of which tamed me in becoming the person I am today. 

Divided by 32 chapters but united by hope and optimism, writing the book “I Decided NOT To Cry” is a resentment to the strength I have carried out throughout these years.

If you have read some of my blogs, you would have known a part of my life, in fact, my professional life and how I conquered the world of business. Nonetheless, I choose to speak the rest of it now as I re-discover myself.

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I was the third child to my parents and most of my childhood lingered around me being called the most well-behaved child. From having a mediocre pretty decent early childhood days to my mother suffering from a psychological illness, my childhood challenges were like a yacht in high-speed winds. From I learned to navigate through tough times and became a pretty good sailor.

My higher education was based in Chandigarh and studying law was the one adolescent decision I had made and despite the ragging culture which was prominent at that instance, law school became my go-to destination. 

After enrolling for a Master’s in Law, that is when I met my husband for the first time. After having numerous memories, tying the knot and having kids, which seems like a settled family, started to have twists and turns. The chapters in the book are titled respectively in a way that highlights the exact essence of the very same chapter. 

I always believed that business was a straightforward exchange of goods and services for money. However, I lacked an understanding of the mindset and behaviour of business people when it came to finances.

I don’t think it was entirely my fault, as my almost saintly father never exposed me to this side of life. The values he instilled in us prevented me from even considering getting involved in these matters. 

The amount of my non-involvement in the sphere of business was this husk but little did I know that this was going to turn opposite in a few years.

After putting myself up with several challenges with my husband and standing by him even though there were a series of issues he grappled with, my thoughts froze two times. One was when I knew about his illicit affair with another woman and another was when I heard that he had taken his life. 

Again, from my in-laws blaming me for their son’s death to knowing little about how to take forward the business which was in a mess to being there for my kids, I started pondering on the question of   “What can I do?” Gradually I tried to mute these voices in my head, I stepped into the business world and the game started to change.

The process of parenting which I worked on was unconventional which dealt with emotional stability and it instilled great strength in me to deal with life ahead.

There were instances of financial trouble. Consulting the bankers was the first thing I did and this was against my consultant’s opinion. He feared we had lost our credibility with the banks and that it was useless to approach them.

To some extent, even I feared that, but I overruled my fears. I fixed an appointment with the General Manager of our bank and shared the details of my company’s financial status. The financial facet started to improve, and I started to place myself solely in business. 

Yet again from being felicitated with the Women Entrepreneur Award 2011 by ET Now in presence of Mr N.R. Narayana Murthy (Founder Infosys) to being known as one of the best Key Note Speakers by 2021, a lot has changed; a huge part of myself has witnessed growth and I hope to keep the same level of spirit and energy high ahead. 

You will be content to read out more about my story and connect the dot to the title I chose to name it. It sparks to describe Life Beyond Loss: The Wife, The Mother, The Entrepreneur.

Human beings are social. Living together has been a necessity throughout the evolving years. Families have emerged as a classification based on different dimension, but every family has the power to influence behaviours among each other from within.

Being a life coach for over 15+ years now, I have had the experience and opportunity to provide my services to people from all walks of life and with marriage and family counselling, I have known that a major chunk of the development of an individual initiates from the family. Parental behaviour and a person’s relationships with their siblings play a major role in making or breaking their personality development.  

The Benefits Of Family Counseling And How It Works 

In Family counselling, a professional, works with families to help them deal with issues and conflicts they may be facing within their family. The major objective of this is to help family members communicate better, resolve conflicts, and develop coping strategies to deal with difficult situations. 

One of the primary reasons why family counselling is required is to help families deal with conflicts and disagreements, family problems and solutions. Conflicts can arise due to a variety of reasons, including differences in opinions, values, and beliefs, financial stress, and interpersonal issues.

It can provide a safe space for family members to express their feelings and work towards resolving conflicts constructively. Through open communication and active listening, family members can learn to understand each other’s perspectives and find common ground. 

My services have been effective and helpful to my clients as I have focused on making them understand the various types of family therapy and guided them in availing of the services that fit their needs the best. The types of family therapy I provide include: 

– Bowenian: for situations where an individual doesn’t want to involve other family members.
– Structural: focuses on adjusting the family system to bring parents in control.
– Systemic: focuses on subconscious communication and meanings.
– Strategic: brief and direct, with the therapist assigning homework to alter family interactions.

Another reason why family counselling is important is to help families cope with major life changes. This can include a divorce or separation, the death of a loved one, or a major illness or injury.

These types of incidents can have a significant impact on the entire family. Counselling can help family members process their emotions and develop strategies for coping with the changes. 

To propagate through family problems and solutions, marriage and family counselling is a prerequisite for what one can term as right parenting which eventually leads to productive child development. This is how a good bond and constructive relationships can be maintained in the family.  

Counselling can also be beneficial for families who are struggling with mental health issues. This can include depression, anxiety, addiction, or other mental health disorders. A trained professional can provide guidance and support to help family members better understand the mental health issue and develop strategies to manage the associated symptoms.

Family counselling can also help family members learn how to support each other through difficult times and work towards recovery together. 

In addition to these reasons, family counselling can also help families develop better communication skills. What I have found in many of the individuals I provide counselling for is that expressing what they really need with the ones in their family is one major thing to work on and pass through, acting as an ice breaker for many other things.

Family counselling can help family members learn how to express their feelings healthily and constructively, and how to listen actively to others. This can help to build stronger, more positive relationships within the family. 

Who needs family counselling?

The truth is, anyone can benefit from family counselling. It is not just for families who are experiencing major problems or crises. Many families seek counselling as a preventative measure to help them build stronger relationships and improve communication before problems arise. Others seek counselling as a way to address minor issues before they escalate into larger problems. 

Here are some specific examples of situations where family counselling may be helpful: 

– A family is struggling to communicate effectively and resolve conflicts. 

– A family has experienced a major life change, such as a divorce or the death of a loved one. 

– A family member is struggling with mental health issues, such as depression or addiction. 

– A family is experiencing financial stress or other external pressures. 

– A family is going through a difficult transition, such as a child leaving for college or a move to a new location. 

It is important to note that family counselling is not a one-size-fits-all solution. Every family is unique, and the approach to counselling will depend on the needs and goals of the family. An experienced counsellor, one like me can work with the family to develop a customized plan that addresses their specific challenges and provides the support they need to move forward. 

In conclusion, family counselling can help family members communicate better, resolve conflicts, and develop coping strategies to deal with difficult situations. If you or your family are experiencing challenges, consider reaching out and I, Ritu Singal, am just one tap away from travelling with you together on your journey.