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These days, Self Love is the talk of every town. It seems interesting, but a lot of people are not aware of what exactly self-love is about. And most people think that Self Love is Selfish. 

Being a Life Coach I met many people who visit me for counseling, and I am so surprised to see that Self Love is alien to them. A lot of people believe that to live a happy life, they need to get love and acceptance from others. However, it is not the right assumption. 

Self Love is accepting yourself just the way you are, treating yourself with respect and compassion, and nurturing your well beings. And the best thing is, Self Love is a skill you can learn and develop just like self-trust and self-confidence. 

Self Love is not just about loving and accepting yourself, it’s beyond that. In this blog, I am going to take you on a Self Love ride. I will talk about the difference between Self Love and Selfish and everything you need to know about this concept. 

What is Self Love?

Self Love is having elevated affection for your own happiness and well-being. It’s all about prioritizing yourself just like you prioritize your family and loved ones. It means taking good care of yourself and not sacrificing your own well-being to make others happy. 

Self Love involves how you treat yourself, your thoughts, and your feelings. The moment you begin to conceptualize Self Love, just imagine how you would feel about yourself, how would you talk to yourself and what would you do for yourself.

It could be different for every individual because every person has particular means of taking care of themselves. Reckoning what self-love is for you is essential for your mental wellness and Successful Life. 

When you start loving yourself, you develop a positive outlook toward yourself as well as others. I will not say that you will never have negative feelings.

Let’s talk a bit more realistically, you may have a negative feeling about yourself for a  few minutes or hours because you can’t control many things. However, that doesn’t mean that you blame yourself or be rude to yourself or stop loving yourself. 

Let’s take an example. I love my daughters even if I sometimes feel annoyed or disappointed with them. Even amid my disappointment, my love for them enlightens the way I connect to them.

It makes me forgive my kids, consider their feelings, get to know their needs, and make decisions that support their well-being. Self-love is exactly similar, which means if you can love others so well why not yourself? 

Self-Love For Beginners:

Beginners can start practicing self-love by accepting themselves with all their flaws and talents. Simply try to accept your emotions and consider your own emotional, mental and physical well-being first. It’s just another way of Personal Development where you work towards your growth. 

• Talk to yourself about yourself, your likes, dislikes, pleasures, etc. 
• Prioritize yourself like your health and happiness.
• Trust yourself, no matter what. Believe in yourself, you can do anything.
• Get rid of self-judgment, and accept yourself just the way you are.
• Be true and nice to yourself, and show empathy to yourself.
• Forgive yourself for your mistakes and for not being nice to yourself. 
• Consume a healthy diet and also enjoy your favorite foods.
• Listen to your body, do not overburden or force it.
• Get regular work breaks to refresh and rejuvenate yourself.
• Switch off your mobile phone and connect to your inner self or your dear ones. 

Why Do You Need to Love Yourself?

When it comes to Self Love, many people ask me, why we need to love ourselves. Is it required? So, tell me one thing, why do you need to love your parents, partners, kids, and your friends? I know I am about to get so many different answers.

Let’s understand it.

This question is coming to your mind because you matured up without any kind of self-love models or no one talked to you about the significance of being good to yourself. That is why you are questioning the value of Self Love. 

Think like this, self-love motivates your positive behaviors reducing the destructive negative behaviors. When you try to develop a mindset where you are accepting yourself with all your flaws, it’s very obvious you are more likely to accept other people with their flaws as well.

When you start prioritizing your happiness, it allows you to say no to the things that you know are not good for you. It helps you build self-compassion. 

Loving yourself protects you from negative thoughts, self-disruption, and forcing yourself too far. It makes you realize that saying no is equally important as saying yes. It encourages self-care which means lower stress and a Successful Life. Self Love allows you to practice self-care, follow your interests and be proud of yourself. 

You know what, when you do not consider yourself you are more likely to be extremely self-critical. You easily fall into perfectionism and people-pleasing. You become habitual to tolerate mistreatment and abuse from others because you don’t love yourself.

You steadily start to neglect your feelings and necessities because you do not know your worth. And trust me, it can not let you stay happy as you may make wrong decisions that don’t interest you anyway. 

What Does Self-Love Look Like?

So now you know why you need to love yourself. Next comes, what it looks like. As I said earlier it’s somewhat like Personal Development. These are very simple things you can do in your daily life and onboard your self-love journey. 

Self Love appears like

• Forgiving yourself for your mistakes and mess-ups.
• Saying positive and kind words to yourself.
• Figuring out and fulfilling your own needs and desires.
• Being self-confident and self-assured.
• Not allowing people to take advantage of you.
• Prioritizing your own health, happiness, and well-being. 
• Spending time with positive people who support you and encourage you.
• Avoiding negative people who judge you and spread negativity.
• Pursuing your interests and hobbies.
• Respecting and cherishing your feelings without judging yourself.
• Recognizing your flaws as well as strengths. 
• Letting go of anger and resentments that grip you back.
• Making health-friendly choices and offering healthy treats to yourself. 
• Accepting your flaws and imperfections and working towards improvement. 
• Considering your values and establishing genuine expectations.
• Tracking your efforts and progress and appreciating yourself for them. 

Difference Between Self Love And Selfish

Now coming to the most important question about loving yourself. So many people out there label self-love as selfish. But it’s not true. Self-love can not be selfish, it is just like you love others, you can love yourself too.

Self Reflection or self-likeness is having an appreciation, empathy, and affection for yourself. When you have a great sense of self-love you comprehend your own morals and lovingly treat yourself. 

Unlike selfishness, which is excessive self-interest, egotism, and extreme self-absorption, Self Love is a positive attribute. Loving yourself means you know your brightness and dimness and you are ok with both.

It can be an inspiration for others because it is like a ray of hope in a lonely path and an encouraging outlook in every failure. 

Self Love Can Never Be Selfish

Just because you love yourself and care for yourself doesn’t make you selfish. Think of the other side, if you can love yourself well, you can love others even much more.

No one should feel guilty for loving themselves, it’s the love no you can never receive from others. Just think like that, how can you express true love to others, if you have never gotten the love that you require within yourself? 

Reasons Why Self-Love is Not Selfish:

• It develops a constructive mindset towards yourself as well as the people around you.
• It allows Self-Reflection and allows you to set healthy boundaries with people. 
• It helps you get in touch with your inner self, your emotions, and your feelings.
• It allows you to face your fears, fight them and follow your passions and dreams that can inspire others. 
• It encourages you to be yourself with grace and confidence. 
• It builds self-respect and respect for others as well. 
• It allows you to prioritize your happiness so you have enough time to love and care for others. 

Loving Yourself is The Key Ingredient For A Happy and Successful Life

Self-love is simply being happy, with yourself, for yourself, and for the happiness of the people you love. Liking yourself and not expect others to like you, setting standards for yourself, being a source of motivation to others, and prompting contentment for others. 

Self-love is not selfish, it is deepened with immense caring for self as well as others. It is another way of saying, Let me love myself first so that I can love you even more. I think people consider Self Love as selfish because of social conditioning. 

The Way You Be in Love With Yourself, You Are Teaching Others To Love You.

Right from the beginning, we come across several love stories including sacrifice and compassion, and this way we begin to feel that we should love our family, parents, friends, and partners and somewhere start feeling selfish about self-love. 

The quality of your relationships depends on how you think about yourself. If you are not good to yourself, you do not treat yourself well, and you are loaded with self-doubt and disapproval, believe me, sooner or later it will begin reflecting in your interactions with others. 

Let’s take the example of Lord Buddha. He was born with great wealth and comfort but he relinquished everything in the pursuit of knowledge, self-realization, and self-reflection.

However, that doesn’t mean he did not work on him. Of course, he did. How would it have been possible for him to love other people and his followers if he did not love himself? First, he worked on himself, loved himself then taught others. 

Self-love and self-regard are essential and people who fail to comprehend these concepts mostly struggle with various aspects of life such as relationships, careers, and finances. 

A typical example of self-care is when you board the flight. The air hostess tells passengers that there is an oxygen mask right above their heads. In case of emergency first put on your mask and then help others, even if you are with your kid. 

So the people who say self-love is selfish may also sound selfish to them. However, if you analyze it logically, it makes sense. 

Suppose you are traveling with your 8 years old child and there is some trouble on the flight. The oxygen mask appears above your head and you start panicking about your kid, which is very obvious. You decide to first put the mask on your child but you get faint before you could do something.

The result is you and your child both could not wear the mask and your lives are in danger. Whereas if you had chosen to wear the oxygen mask first, you both would have been safe.

I am not advising you not to think about others, helping others and doing good to others is great but make sure it is not affecting your own well-being. Don’t sacrifice yourself for the sake of others. To help others, first learn to help yourself. 

Self-Love is Personal Development.

Right from childhood, we are taught that we should care for others, show empathy to others, and love our parents, grandparents, siblings, and friends. However, very few children are taught to love themselves as well. We are not taught how to love ourselves, and that is why when we try to focus on ourselves, we may feel guilty or seem selfish.

But it’s not, it’s like developing a new self. When you practice self-love you work for yourself, improve yourself, and develop yourself just the way you desired. 

Self-love is a skill that everybody needs, it’s great for you, your health, and also for people around you. As you practice self-love and self-care you will notice that often you feel restored, and improved, you have better opportunities and amended relationships with others. 

Here are a few hand-picked guides for you to read:

• A Life Coach On Personality Development
• Personality Development- The Perfect Route to Attain Success
• Gain Confidence with Personality Development Counselling

How to Practice Self-Love

There are numerous ways to practice self-love. A particular person may have his own definition of self-love. And you know what, once you start loving yourself and accepting yourself as you are, you tend to explore new ways to lift your happiness and well-being.

However, as a Life Coach, I am sharing my personal favorite ways to love yourself and make yourself feel better. 

• Be mindful of what you think, how you feel, and what you desire.
• Take care of your needs, and nourish yourself with good nutrition, proper sleep, and healthy interactions. 
• Practice self-love meditation to shift your thoughts so that you can focus on new kinds of stuff such as the ways you are good and valuable and a lot more. 
• Be warm towards yourself and others. Being affectionate and loving towards yourself and others, allows you to develop a love-filled environment around you. 
• Focus on the positive traits and goodness in you and your life. Be grateful for the goodness in your life and try writing it every day. 
• Don’t hesitate to say no when it is required. Setting boundaries and saying no is very important sometimes. 
• Please yourself regularly, give treats to yourself for small achievements or maybe without any reason. But make sure it should not lead to self-disruption.
• Nobody is born perfect in this world. So accept your flaws and imperfections without being hard on yourself. Learn from your mistakes and improve them rather than blaming and punishing yourself. 
• If someone doesn’t like you, accept it. Some people will like you, some may not. That’s ok, try to let it go and move on with people who actually love you. 
• Self Reflection, spend time with just yourself, being alone, and observing yourself and your life. 
• Try to nurture a copious mindset. It works like a blessing as it allows you to focus on the encouraging and positive aspects of life. 

Concluding Words

Is Self Love Selfish? No, My Dear Self Love is Essential.

Your whole basis starts with you. Talking about your relationship, which can not endure without you. how you treat your relationships and how you take your life is a direct imitation of how you treat yourself, that simply means self-love is necessary. It is an essential skill that everybody should learn and practice.

Just make sure to consider yourself, pamper yourself, nurture your relationship with yourself just like you do with others, and enjoy your life. As I always say, start with baby steps and then keep going. 

Not very long ago, the C word (Cancer) used to be a dreaded but popular currency but now we are living in the “Age of Depression” as the number of depressive people is skyrocketing worldwide. A government survey puts the number of Indians in need of professional help for mental disorders at 13 crore i.e. every 11th Indian is a psychological patient. If you couple it with the fact of India having too few psychiatrists to handle this virtual epidemic, the spectre gets horrifying. A great majority of those afflicted suffer from mood disorders, mainly depression, of which married women are the worst affected (my hunch, too), as they are constrained by so many personal, familial, social and economic limitations.

Though most millennials use the D word like a loose change, as a practicing life coach, I can tell you with confidence – Depression is more debilitating, incapacitating and wasting than they can possibly think of. For many people, a bad exam, a tiff with a partner or a professor or friend’s remark may be enough to make them feel depressed (They are not! They are just sad.). But in sharp contrast, for professional mental health caregivers, it is a much more pregnant, serious and persistent phenomenon to the extent that it implies great personal, social and economic loss causing absenteeism, low productivity, poor life quality, bad relationships, separations, divorces and suicides. A study by NIMHANS, Bengaluru shows depression to be a major trigger in a majority of the suicides in India. More tragically, a good enough number among these suicides are committed by young people.    

So, the popular idea of depression is a gross distortion of a severely limiting mental disorder. Sadly, most of us are oblivious to the great price we are paying for ignoring its grave consequences.

There is hope

Being a life coach, I get to talk to many people with depression. Such problems contribute to the issues which people bring to a life coach. Besides, being the daughter of a severely depressed mother and a depressive patient myself, I can well understand the personal distress, dysfunction and the social costs of depression. My mother had developed severe depression when I was a young schooler. She lay in bed all day long, hardly moving out of it. Though I wasn’t alive to it then, I could still make out that not all was well with her. And at a point in time, her condition worsened so much that she had to be given electro-convulsive therapy to give her some relief. 

Later, my husband committed suicide, leaving behind two teenage daughters and me, a 60-crore debt, multiple court cases to fight, and a new textile plant to manage. I believed I, too, would slip into a depressive cycle given my harrowing circumstances and my genes. But mercifully, I could collect the pieces of life with determination and positive attitude to rebuild my life. So much so that I took training to become a qualified life coach to help others to improve their lives. My story is a message to all of the immense value of hope, optimism and determination to come out of life’s adversities. 

Signs and Symptoms of depression

Depression is a common but serious medical illness which can negatively affect your feelings, thoughts and actions. Though the symptoms of depression  vary, in general, depression leads to persistent sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities once enjoyed. It creates many emotional and physical problems and reduces your ability to function effectively both at home and the workplace.

Of course, being disappointed, dejected or sad over events is pretty common in daily life and is not a symptom of depression. Such feelings lift on their own and no medication or other medical help is required. But depression goes much beyond i.e. persistently low mood, and sadness for more than 14 days.

Depression Vs. Sadness and Grief

The loss of a loved one, a job or a relationship are difficult experiences and the feelings of sadness or grief are natural, normal responses. The grieving process is unique to each one and has some features common with depression. Both may involve feelings of intense sadness and withdrawal from normal activities but they differ in other important ways:

1. In grief, painful feelings come as waves, intermixed with positive memories but in major depression, mood and/or interest show a serious decline.
2. In grief, self-esteem usually remains intact but in major depression, the feelings of worthlessness and self-loathing are common.
3. For a grieving person, the ideas of death may surface while thinking of “joining” the deceased one but in major depression, the ideas are focused on ending one’s life due to the feelings of worthlessness or inability to handle depression.
4. Grief and depression may exist together. In such cases, the grief is more severe and lasts longer than grief without depression.

A major depressive episode means experiencing five or more of the following symptoms of depression daily or on most days for two weeks or more:

1. Feelings of sadness or hopelessness
2. Persistent anxiety or feelings of emptiness
3. Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and/or helplessness
4. Difficulty in concentrating on something
5. Problem in making decisions
6. Loss of interest in once pleasurable activities or hobbies
7. Feelings of Restlessness, agitation, irritability
8. Suicidal or self-harming thoughts  (i.e., intentionally cutting or burning yourself)
9. Fatigue and low energy levels
10. Sleeplessness or excess sleep
11. Persistent pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems
12. Overeating/weight gain or loss of appetite/weight loss
13. Purposeless physical activity (can’t sit still, pacing, handwringing)
14. Feelings of worthlessness or guilt or self-blame
15. irritable mood
16. unrealistically low self-image
17. Significantly low energy and/or change in self-care (i.e., not showering anymore)
18. Agitation or severe anxiety/panic attacks

A few medical conditions like thyroid problems, brain tumor or vitamin deficiency can have signs similar to those listed here. So, before making a proper diagnosis, it’s important to rule out other general medical causes, which may be responsible for these symptoms.

Causes of Depression

Depression can affect anyone, even someone living in relatively ideal circumstances. Several factors can play a role here:

Genetic causes of depression

Genetic factors play a role in affecting one’s vulnerability to depression. Depression is triggered by a combination of genetics and external factors. Depression often tends to run in families. If an identical twin has depression, the other one runs a 70 percent chance of having it sometime  later. It has a high degree of heritability (about 40%) in cases where first-degree relatives (parents/children/siblings) suffer from depression.

 Biological causes of depression

Depression is associated with changes in brain function and neurotransmitters like serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine.

Adverse medical conditions

A person with a chronic or life-threatening illness (such as coronary heart disease or cancer), sleep disorder, thyroid issue, or hormonal disorders is more likely to experience worsened symptoms of depression if they have it.

Alcoholism and substance abuse

Excessive consumption of alcohol or other substances can trigger or worsen depression.

Gender-related

Women are twice as likely as men to develop depression and are more prone to depressive disorders around their menstrual periods, in pregnancy, post childbirth, and peri-menopause.

Social

Many situations or incidents can trigger depression e.g. death of a loved one,  close association with a sick relative, abuse or neglect as a child, divorce or marital issues, loss of job, financial stress, moving to another city, social isolation and discrimination. Such events need not be negative to cause distress as even positive events such as getting married or having a baby may lead to a depressive episode.

Dealing with depression     

As a life coach, I understand well that dealing with depression is hard as it drains one’s energy, hope and drive. Though there is no quick fix there yet, but a combination of medication and counselling under a trained psychiatrist is the best way to go. Besides, you can take several steps on your own to help you come out of the emotional morass and rumination.

Of course, depression must not be taken lightly at all and if you have such symptoms, do visit a trained psychiatrist for diagnosis and treatment. But the medications also work best in tandem with changes in your thought processes, exercising, better dietary habits etc. Being depressed can make you feel helpless. But you’re not. Along with therapy and medication, there’s a lot you can do to fight back. Changing your behavior, physical activity, lifestyle, and ways of thinking  — all these natural ways to fight and keep away depression.

1. Break the ongoing cycle

Depressive people tend to give a negative taint to everything, including the way they look at themselves and the world and their expectations about the future.

As a life coach, I often tell my depressive clients that in such cases, they need to remember it as a depressive symptom. Such irrational, pessimistic attitudes or cognitive distortions are unrealistic and you need to break out of this mould by telling yourself to “think positive.” The trick is identifying the negative thoughts that are triggering your depression and replacing them with more balanced thoughts.

Try to get rid of negative things like

“My last test was horrible. What a moron I have been!”

“He told me he had a blast with me at the party, but I guess he’s just being polite.”

“The boss must be thinking of me as a pathetic fellow” or “I’m caught for life in this sucking job.”

“I am such a loser. They must be making fun of me!”

“I shouldn’t have gone to the interview. What an idiot I was thinking It could crack it.”

“What a total flop I am!”

Once you identify the toxic, destructive thoughts that lead to depression, start challenging them with something like

“Is there some evidence that this is true? Not true!”

“What would I suggest to a friend having such a thought?”

“Is there another way to understand and analyze the situation or is there an alternative explanation for it?”

“How would I look at it if I weren’t depressed?”

Throughout my therapy work with depressive patients, I have found such cross-examination to be very helpful, which reveals how easily these negative ideas crumble and help you gain a balanced cognitive perspective, which relieves your depressive symptoms.

2. Finding Meaning

Try to find personal meaning by serving something larger than yourself. The service doesn’t always have to be big in order to be counted.  “Success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue… as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a course greater than oneself.” – Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

3. Feel Good

Relax with stress management, set your limits and be part of fun activities. While you can’t force yourself to feel pleased, push yourself to do things – even reluctantly and you’ll find how much better you feel. You’ll feel more cheerful and energetic being part of fun activities.  I can vouch for it as I have been doing them consistently and advise my clients to do so.

Try resuming a hobby/game you loved earlier – music, dance, art, or writing. Go out and have fun with friends. Be with nature, read a book, watch a laughter show, have a relaxing bath, play with a pet, talk to a friend or family, enjoy music and be ready for a surprise result.

4. Eat healthy, fight depression

The food you eat impacts the way you feel. Limit the intake of foods that adversely affect your brain and mood like caffeine, alcohol, trans-fats, and foods with preservatives or hormones.

Don’t miss a meal as a long gap can make you feel irritable and tired. Have a small meal every 3-4 hours but avoid sugary snacks, bakery, comfort foods like noodles and pasta as the “feel-good” things crash your mood and energy.

A deficiency of Vitamin B i.e. folic acid and B-12 can also trigger depression. Talk to your doctor for a B-complex vitamin supplement or eat more of citrus fruit, leafy greens, beans and eggs. 

Read: Organic Food and Healthy Mind

4. Reach out

The support of your family, friends, colleagues and elders can have a vital role in combating depression. Depression brings a tendency to withdraw and isolate, thereby making the connect with family and friends even tougher.

You may be feeling tired, ashamed or guilty but remember, this is just  depression talking. Be connected with others and be part of social activities; trust me, it makes a world of difference to your mood and outlook. Never take it as a weakness or a burden as your loved ones care about you and would love to help you.

Forge new friendships for a better social support network. Even if the other one may not solve it, they can be of great help – by being attentive, compassionate and non-judgmental listeners.  

Phone calls and social media cannot replace the good old face time. Talking to someone personally plays a big role in relieving depression and keeping it at bay. Besides, think of ways to help others as it can your boost your mood in return. Work with an NGO, a volunteer group, be a good listener for a friend, be a Good Samaritan for somebody and it will drive away your depression, too.

5. Get Going

For a depressed person, getting out of bed or home is a task, let alone working out! But exercising is a potent antidepressant, which can aid your recovery fast. In fact, regular exercise has been found to be as effective as medication in relieving depression. Regular exercise heightens the levels of the happiness hormone (dopamine) in your brain. Remember the runner’s high you experienced- That exhilarating feeling after about half an hour of intense running, jogging etc? Do at least 30 minutes of exercise daily. 

To begin with, have a 10-minute walk to see how it improves your mood. Explore continuous, rhythmic exercises like walking, weight training, swimming, martial arts or dance, where you move both your arms and legs. Also have a partner to socialize and keep yourself motivated at a club, aerobics class or in a soccer team.

6. Try something new

When you’re depressed, you feel in a rut. Try to do something different – visit a museum, pick up an old book and read it, volunteer for a service organization or learn a new language.

When we challenge ourselves to do something different, chemical changes happen in the brain. Trying something new heightens dopamine levels, which is linked to pleasure, enjoyment, and learning.

6. Health Is Wealth

Sleeping too much/little can be problematic. So, try to sleep for 8 hours as depression often involves sleep problems. Learn about healthy sleep habits to have a good, quality sleep cycle.

Keep your stress under check as it worsens depression, apart from triggering it. Think of strategies to relieve the pressure from workload, money, or bad relationships and regain control of your life. Regular relaxation helps you relieve your depression and stress to boost enjoyment and well-being. Try out yoga, deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or meditation or some such.

7. Sunny Side Up

Bask in the sunlight to improve serotonin levels to improve your mood. Expose yourself to the sun for a minimum of 20 minutes daily. Walk in the open during lunch break and improve the natural lighting in your home and workplace by opening blinds, drapes and sitting near windows.

8. Make a routine

Depressed people need a routine as depression can strip the structure out of your life. One day melts into the next. Sp setting a gentle daily schedule can help you get back on the track. When you’re depressed, you may feel you can’t do, which makes you feel worse. To push back, set daily goals for yourself. Begin small, something that you can succeed at, like doing the dishes every other day. As you begin to feel better, add more challenging daily goals.

When you’re depressed, you may want to withdraw from life and give up your responsibilities at home and at work. Instead, be involved and have daily responsibilities to help you maintain a lifestyle that can counter depression. They give you a sense of accomplishment. If you can’t do full-time work, think about part-time work. If it seems like too much, consider volunteer work.

If these tips do not help you, look for professional help. Remember, seeking help doesn’t mean you are weak. Depression is certainly treatable and curable and you can feel better! Even while you are getting professional help, these things can accelerate your recovery and help you avoid a relapse.

When it comes to workplace challenges, most companies struggle with having a productive staff.  Productivity at the workplace is the efficacy of employees to complete their tasks and reach company goals. Workplace productivity contributes to profitability and noticeable employee determination. 

A productive workplace means a healthy work culture and a successful business. When the employees are delighted, well-assisted, and have the suitable tools to accomplish their everyday tasks, it leads to productivity. When an organization is productive, it boosts financial gain, cuts production costs, and enhances customer service relationships. A more productive workplace is equal to rapid organizational growth.

Understanding Workplace Productivity:

Productivity at the workplace is a perfect blend of speed, time management, focus, enthusiasm to make achievements, and more. Putting it simply, getting your job done in the least possible time without negotiating the work quality and your well-being, implies a productive workplace. Productivity is most about promptness, excellence of work, retaining sharp focus, and strength of mind by avoiding interruptions and accomplishing tasks within a certain deadline.  

As per the research, in a workday that is generally 8 hours, an average worker is productive for just around 3 hours. It’s surprising, employees are not productive for even half of the time they spend in the office. Many reasons are responsible for that, which seems small individually but contributes to a lot of inefficient time together. It leads to a lack of company achievements which is why organizations are seeking corporate counseling for workplace problems to improve workplace productivity.

Encouraging employees is the most essential aspect of staff productivity that also leads to personal productivity. There are various ways to promote motivation and boost personal and organizational productivity.

For instance, 

For personal productivity, you can follow these tips

• Fostering a soothing and inspiring morning routine
• Creating a to-do list for your everyday tasks
• Prioritizing and focusing on the most important tasks

Companies can try these tactics to motivate staff and enhance employee engagement

• Splitting substantial projects into pocket-size tasks
• Improving understanding and skills required for potential upcoming projects
• Making everyday to-do lists for errands that should be get done for better emphasis

Moreover, workplace throughput can decline if there is a scarcity of planning. Trying to carry out a project or task with no timeframe or deadline can be confusing and may cause delays. Each project comprises little steps, making you attain the desired outcomes. 

Why Does Workplace Productivity Matter?

Every efficient and successful organization understands the significance of employee productivity and the value it adds. Encouraging staff productivity that leads to business outcomes is vital for a thriving business. Moreover, when an employee feels personally prolific, encounters more sense of fulfillment and happiness. Everybody knows the knockback feeling when we do not feel efficient after working all day. 

When I say productivity at the workplace, it implies that your employees are using their work hours professionally to carry out significant errands which contributes to reaching goals and generating revenue. When it happens, your company is making use of its human assets’ capability with negligible wastage.

To make it simpler, workplace productivity matters because the amount of wealth an organization spends on employee salaries should be smaller than what the company earns through its undertakings. 

How to Measure Productivity at The Workplace?

Set up standard time obligations for regular errands and utilize them to assess employee performance. To establish the ideal workplace environment let your employees interact, participate, and collaborate liberally. 

Measuring productivity at the workplace must be done in contrast to the count of activities done rather than the count of hours spent—the level of proficiency, time consumed to finish tasks, and count of accomplished tasks, etc. 

For instance, an employee can take 8 hours to complete a task while he could have finished 3 tasks in 8 hours. Recognizing the amount of time your staff spends on assignments allows you to evaluate their whole performance. 

Most Common Workplace Challenges Recognized by Organizations:

Before I tell you about the tips to enhance workplace productivity it’s essential to know about the challenges all businesses face. It is vital to know the struggles that are responsible for the lack of workspace productivity. It helps you counter the glitch better. 

• Emails are time-consuming:

An average employee spends around 20 hours a week checking emails. The problem is, not all these emails are essential but eat up a lot of time. The problem is even worse than you can expect because unnecessary emails contribute to unproductive hours which could be used to complete some important errands. 

• Stress is silently killing the workers:

I have met many people who accept that their workspace productivity is smashed by stress. Today we are always busy, having no time to relax to fight anxiety and stress. It eventually impedes your productivity at the workplace. Many people reported that they feel stressed and anxious because of work pressure impacting their efficiency at work. 

Establishing a stress-free workspace, paying attention to employee wants, communicating company goals well, organizing team-building events, and planning outings are some simple things that can avert workplace stress and anxiety. Other than that, considering the best life coach in India for corporate counseling and guidance can help employees deal with stress and anxiety. 

• Meetings are the productivity destroyer:

As I have counseled many employees, I came to know that most of the workers believe that daily meetings are a major waste of time and a productivity killer at work. They say most of the meetings are a failure, just a waste of time leading nowhere. 

• Interferences, interruptions, and distractions:

Undeniably distractions are killing workspace efficiency. From water cooler conversations to social media, a heap of activities is there that steal employee time making them unproductive. 

The most common distractions that lead to unproductivity are personal gossip, reading news online, preparing hot drinks, texting/chatting on phone, personal phone calls, looking for new jobs, smoking breaks, extended lunch breaks, social media, eating snacks, etc. 

All these distractions can be avoided by expanding productivity skills. When you work with the best life coach, they help you know the obstructions and offer resolutions. They are experts in their field and equipped with problem-solving strategies.

What Are the Factors That Affect Productivity at The Workplace?

Firstly, the tools your staff use in their job, highly influence their efficacy. In this digital era technology is the key component of the workspace. Having innovative technology at a company means greater profit. 

Problems with co-workers, untrained employees, and improper handling of resources lead to poor productivity and financial losses. A lack of realistic aspirations and complicated goals can distort and demotivate employees. Team leaders should chunk out convincing, smaller, achievable, and deadline-based objectives to make the job clear.

Some major factors that influence workspace productivity are:

• Complex targets to achieve:

Targets give direction and enthusiasm to accomplishment, so it is important to have clear targets. Managers should allocate clear-cut and measurable goals for every employee. Simple goals mean better performance. 

• Appreciation and rewards:

Like I always say, everyone loves to be recognized and rewarded by their managers. When workers are not valued, they feel discouraged and don’t perform well. Employee appreciation is the best way to keep your staff encouraged. It makes them feel that they are valuable to the company. Bonuses, incentives, and promotions are great rewards for employees that make them feel appreciated and motivated. 

• Employee expansion opportunities:

Workers stay and connect with the organizations that nurture their aptitudes and offer them opportunities to expand their skills. Corporations that want to succeed and grow well necessitate employee development as it accelerates growth. So, you need to make sure that they have all the necessary implements to strengthen your business. You can organize training programs, skill enhancement activities, and corporate counseling for workplace problems to maximize the output of your company.

Advantages Of a Productive Workplace:

Greater profit is the most realistic benefit of employee efficiency. The rate of productivity also contributes to the reputation of the organization. Higher productivity means higher employee self-confidence. 

• Greater satisfaction:

When workers are offered the opportunity to contribute to the organization and be valued it gives them a sense of purpose. This feeling and purpose motivate them to make every effort to bring their best to the table. When employees feel fulfilled with their work it leads to success, customer loyalty, and reduced staff turnover. 

• Amended customer service:

Improved productivity promotes enhanced customer service because of challenging interactions. When employees are putting in their best, they are commencing suitable activities to offer an all-inclusive and satisfying experience to each customer. And the result is happy customers who are more likely to add to your customer list. 

• Raised revenue generation:

Employers invest in their employees with the clear aim of earning better profits. If they are productive at the workplace, they are generating remarkable revenue. Productivity in the workplace is directly linked to greater profits.  

• Superior employee engagement:

When your staff is more constructive, they are more interested in being involved and taking part in the business and associated activities. This is called positive engagement which contributes to better customer relationships and increased sales. 

• Build encouraging work culture:

Productive teams are more likely to work together. They are more collaborative and inspiring, building a positive culture in the workplace. Productivity brings a better sense of team spirit that aids employee well-being and complete job fulfillment. 

Suggestions From the Best Life Coach in India to Heighten Productivity at The Workplace:

Ok so now coming to the most important segment, how corporations can boost workspace throughput. Minor modifications to habits, approaches, and tools can significantly better employee efficiency and business productivity. Let’s see how.

• Support routine breaks:

I have seen many organizations that treat their employees as robots that keep rotating in and out. They are not paying attention to workplace challenges that are affecting the efficiency of staff. It makes employees fatigued and stressed causing burnout. These employees are surely not going to stay at your company for long. 

Employers need to understand that workers are also human beings. Encourage workers to take routine breaks to recharge and perform with more energy and a fresh mind.  Letting them recover significantly improves their efficiency. 

• Reduce personal distractions:

Frequently checking social media and attending personal calls are some very common distractions that eat up a lot of time and reduce productivity. You can’t just ban mobile phones because sometimes it could be urgent as well. The better way is to make a rule that workers can use their mobile phones and take personal calls during break time. This way they will not feel restricted. It will save a lot of time that employees can use to finish their chores. 

• Make use of time-tracking tools:

Time tracking implements help you check employee output. With this software, employees can easily plan their everyday tasks and the time required to complete them. It will make them in charge of their schedule leading to better productivity. The employer can monitor the reports to evaluate how they are operating, and you can also take required actions to increase performance. 

• Acknowledge and appreciate your staff:

As I mentioned earlier, appreciation works wonders. Recognizing and appreciating your employees for excellence boost their self-esteem and encourage them to perform at their best. For instance, one of your employees usually finishes his tasks in the least possible time without negotiating the quality. Appreciate him/her and give rewards for their achievement. It will not just encourage that individual employee but also the other to add extra effort. 

• Invest in work productivity techniques:

Having the right tools and techniques in the workspace is necessary to compel employee engagement and enhance business throughput. Businesses are becoming more complex every day so corporations should make sure that their staff has the perfect equipment such as communication and collaboration tools. Acquire valuable workplace productivity practices to ensure employee satisfaction and maximize yield. 

Read: Revamp Work Culture with Workplace Counselling

• Listen to your team members:

When employees are heard by their leaders, they are more likely to devote their best potential. Listening to your team members ensures fairness and equal opportunity in the workspace. Hearing out several opinions at the discussion table is always helpful for employers. Furthermore, you can also know about the discomforts and problems they are facing at work. 

• Eliminate motivation killers:

Workspace productivity is directly linked to motivation. Encouraged employees are more creative so it’s essential to remove the motivation destroyers. For that, first, you need to recognize them. Some general culprits are boredom, feeling undervalued, problems with co-workers, lack of support, work stress, lack of career expansion opportunities, and negative team members who create a negative environment. Once you know the motivation killers, you can take the necessary steps to alleviate and remove them. 

• Cut down on meetings:

Needless meetings waste a lot of time as I told you earlier. Cut down on unnecessary meetings to boost productivity. Before you plan a meeting, investigate if you could communicate the same thing on a call, via quick video chat, or through a collaboration tool. Only organize meetings if it’s essential and you can get the most out of it.

• Prioritize employee wellness:

Well-being is vital for being productive. Mentally and physically healthy employees are more efficient at the workplace. The best way to maintain the wellness of your workers is corporate counseling for workplace problems. An expert counselor can help you diagnose and resolve workplace problems. Other than that

• Make sure your employees do not feel overloaded with work.
• Offer fitness programs, gym memberships or discounts, etc.
• Conduct assistance programs for employees who are facing problems.
• Maintain a hygienic and comfortable environment at the office.
• Organize events and celebrations to rejuvenate your workers.
• Allow regular breaks and personal breaks for relaxation. 
• Make clear and accurate communications:

Miscommunication can create blunders. Effective communication between the team members boosts their excellence. Accurate communication helps your employees understand their duties, diminishing the chances of misinterpretation. Make sure they understand what you say and vice versa. 

• Recognize the strong and weak sides of your workers:

Managers should know their employees well so that they can assign them tasks and projects accordingly. You should be conscious of their skill sets, talents, and weaknesses as well. It will enhance productivity because you are allocating suitable jobs. On the other hand, you can also work on their weak points.

Summing Up:

Happy, healthy, and motivated workers are vital for any corporation that wants to heighten productivity. Productive staff can boost your revenue and build the company’s reputation. Organizations should maintain a stress-free and positive environment in the workplace without any kind of distractions. 

Managers can only do that by comprehending the importance of productivity and the roadblocks which are affecting it. You need to identify various workplace challenges and take steps to overcome these challenges. Try to implement the above-stated recommendations to maintain fulfillment to increase the efficiency of your employees. 

From the time you were a  small kid, you are taught to thank others for their nice gestures, compliments, or gifts. You automatically learn to express thanks. 

But then how long do we extend thanks for small things that give us happiness in our daily life? 

Believe it or not, there is a definite connection between gratitude and happiness. Deciding to be grateful can be the easiest way to upshot your happiness. We generally think that happiness is a sense of feeling joyful but it’s more about feeling good and satisfied about your life. 

In our daily lives, we all express gratitude by saying thank you when someone helps us or gives us some gifts, etc. Simply make it a habit to be thankful for every good happening in your life. This positive reaction assists biological persistence in your body encouraging good mental and emotional health. And I do not need to tell you that good mental can do wonders in many aspects of your life. 

Highlights

• Gratefulness is a humble tool to improve your own as well as others well being.
• Gratitude is unarguably more than being thankful, it is a profound appreciation for something or someone that delivers everlasting positivity. 
• There are sundry explanations for gratitude but living through gratitude at its mainstay demands a mindful effort.
• Whatever you have, be appreciative of that and it will turn that into enough and more. 
• Gratitude transforms denial into approval, mix-up into clarity, and disorder into order fetching peace for today and creating a dream for tomorrow.

I am sure you want to learn more about gratitude, how it works, why it is important, how to practice thankfulness, and how it contributes to improved happiness. In this blog, I am going to talk all about gratitude and how it contributes to your mental health. 

Read: Mental Health: The Matters That Matter

Understanding Gratitude with Life Coach Ritu Singal

We all are familiar with conveying appreciation by saying thank you when something good happens or someone helps you, gives you a gift, wishes you, etc. Still, gratitude is a more refined concept than just a simple assertion of goodness. It comprises both the appreciation of the positive and its result. 

For instance, you have been to someone’s house and they served you tea. You like the tea but instead of appreciating you said that you gave me tea but you haven’t given me biscuits with tea. Then you asked for one more cup of tea, the person may serve tea but not with their heart as they served you the first time. However, if you have said that the tea is very tasty, can I have one more cup of tea with biscuits, the person would have served you gladly with all their heart because they have been appreciated. The problem is, just a few people do that. 

Gratitude is defined as the appreciation of meaningful and valuable things in our lives. We recognize and acknowledge that higher powers (if you are a spiritual person) or other people help us in many ways to help us attain the heavens in our lives. Thankfulness involves much more than presenting good manners. The practice requires accepting others’ humble gestures toward us and the good events in our lives.

Gratitude allows people to recognize the goodness in their lives, and as an outcome, gratitude also connects them to something great be it nature, other people, or higher power. When you receive something expensive, unexpected, and purposefully decided benefits, typically an emotion evokes within you that is thankfulness. This thought plays a major role in regulating the instigation and preservation of social relationships and happiness. 

Gratitude is A Feeling or Emotion?

The simple answer is gratitude is both a feeling as well as an emotion because we can be, feel and act grateful. It can also turn out to be a  trait with other emotions. You can also take it as a multilayered emotion as it contains your thought of thankfulness. For example, I am so lucky to have you in my life. What a lovely gesture. So, it’s a feeling and also an emotion. 

The Purpose of Gratitude

People practice gratitude to strengthen their relations and to make new social relations. Acts of thankfulness can be expended to ask for forgiveness, make amends and resolve other issues. Simply feeling grateful for your existence, being alive, and living a good life is a notable way to encourage yourself to take hold of the day. 

Suppose you have Amrit (immortal drink) and you add one drop of poison to it. Now what will happen, just one drop of poison will finish the value of Amrit. Similarly in our relations or our daily life events, a lack of gratitude ruins the value of all other efforts. Suppose someone has done something very good to you. You are thanking them by saying thank you but you could have done this, this would be much better, or something like that. These words will spoil the worth of your thankyou. Whereas if you have said, thank you so much, I am grateful for your efforts. These words of thankfulness work magically, improving the quality of your relationship with that person. The person would feel appreciated. 

Gratitude allows you to know your connection with humanity and be aware of other people’s roles in your life. It initiates stronger relationships with family, friends, partners, and colleagues as it allows the acknowledgment of our interconnection. 

Phases Of Gratitude

While understanding the concept of gratitude, it’s important to know about the stages or steps of gratitude. These two stages of gratitude help you determine how you can incorporate gratitude as a habit in your daily routine. 

• Recognize the positive aspects of your life even if things are not going well

It’s human nature, you tend to think more about what is happening wrong. It helps you identify issues that need to be fixed to get solutions. However, you need to get a better understanding and let yourself enjoy what is happening well.

For that matter, take a moment every day to visualize all the good things happening. The more you do it, soon you will detect the virtuous kinds of stuff and genuine feelings of gratitude and happiness. You will begin accepting and appreciating the many facets that make your life worth living. 

• Identifying that some causes of these good things lie in external 

Once you identify the beauty and goodness in your present, you can vigorously access the next phase of gratitude which is understanding that the good stuff is coming from the outer world.  As you start experiencing this delight and gratefulness, at that point recognizing and thanking nature, people around you, luck, and a religious figure is a natural practice. 

Why Does Gratitude Work?

Gratitude is a selfless and unconditional act to express appreciation. To understand these acts let’s take an example when you get a gift, you feel thankful and appreciate the giver because they are not expecting anything in return. 

Suppose you are sad about something and one of your friends sends you a text message of appreciation, your friend is not asking for something from you. He/she is reminding you of your worth and expressive gratefulness for your existence to make your mood better. They are not expecting the same note from you at that time, they know you are feeling low so they just want you to feel good. 

However, gratitude can be spreadable because sometimes maybe a friend is stressed about something and you write them a note of appreciation to make them feel better without expecting anything from them and without putting any conditions. 

I am sure now you know why gratitude works. 

How to Practice Gratitude?

Gratefulness is a tool to appreciate what you have instead of desiring new things. It makes you feel happier about the positive aspects of your life. Practicing thankfulness helps you relocate on what you possess instead of what you lack. With regular practice, you can perceive stronger mental health. Just like other habits and skills, gratitude can be learned, practiced, and strengthened. 

Life Coach Ritu Singal recommends these simple ways to run through gratefulness regularly

• Think of three things that you are appreciative of every day:

Make it a daily practice to envision at least three things you feel thankful for. It directly influences your attitude all day. Do it early in the morning or before you go to sleep. For the best fruits practice it for at least 10 minutes daily. 

Several people visit me for a variety of mental health issues, and psychological,  work-related, or life-related counseling. When I suggest the visualization technique, many people say they can’t visualize because when they start visualizing good things, bad thoughts dominate the good ones. 

Well, it happens with almost everyone when they start. Once you begin with it, with regular practice you can visualize whatever you want to with your mind’s eyes. If you also find visualizing hard, you can go for the next step.

• Write a gratitude note every day:

Start a thank you journal. I believe that writing can be an outstanding self-help practice. I never skip it. When you pen down your thoughts of appreciation, different parts of the brain are involved. You access your emotions and memories with a new perspective. 

You must have heard about organic food and healthy mind. Just like organic food works brilliantly to develop a healthy mind similarly a gratitude note activates your brain areas that are linked to goodness and positive emotions. 

During difficult situations, if you read your own gratitude journal, it can help you feel good and face the challenge better. 

• Meditation and prayers:

While practicing gratitude, meditation can help you go deeper. People who are more into spirituality can do prayers to practice and strengthen the feeling of gratitude. Many types of guided medication allow you to broaden your outlook on life and your connection to yourself as well as other people. 

It encourages acceptance, compassion, detachment, and therefore gratitude. You can also meditate to imagine a particular moment you are grateful for and let that feeling cultivate and be brighter. 

Remarkable Benefits of Practicing Gratitude

Gratefulness has extensive effects on your health. When you are appreciative and satisfied with what you have, it reflects in your physical health. You are more likely to eat better, exercise, and take care of your health. Gratitude has convincing positive effects on mental health and complete psychological well-being. It boosts positive emotions and self-esteem which makes you more hopeful. 

Feeling thankful makes you experience deep happiness and your body produces wonderful chemicals. It activates neurotransmitters such as serotonin regulates mood and dopamine which boosts pleasure. Making gratitude a daily habit can deliver numerous short and long-term benefits. 

Let’s get into some evidence-based benefits of thankfulness

• Alters brain for good:

As per research people who are more grateful, have more activity in their brains that is associated with decision-making and learning. 

• Less negative emotions:

Being grateful increases positive sentiments such as compassion and joy encouraging you to seek goodness and connect with good stuff. It helps you shift your attention from negative sentiments such as envy and resentment. 

• Help fight depression:

You may not believe that a single thought of appreciation gives an immediate boost to happiness reducing depressive thoughts. As you make it a habit, it can help prevent depression and anxiety. 

• Better physical health:

Appreciativeness contributes to healthy behaviors such as exercise and diet. Regular practice is associated with an improved immune system, restored sleep, less illness, and fewer pains. 

• Improved personal and social relationships:

Gratefulness intensifies compassionate behavior, you are more likely to develop compassion for others and help others. It increases trust, and faithfulness and makes you feel happy about your relationships. 

• Boost mental health and well-being:

Gratitude works ahead of just happiness when it comes to your mental well-being. Feeling thankful significantly boosts your mood, makes you more cheerful and lowers stress and depression. 

• Uplift your professional life:

Running through gratitude makes you more content with your job and career. You are more likely to find meaning in your work. 

• Well-equipped to cope with hardships:

When you are happy with what you have in your life, you have improved self-esteem and a clear head. It makes you better equipped and prepared to face and deal with obstacles. 

Moreover, there are some spiritual benefits of practicing gratitude in your daily life.

• You know that god loves you, and it makes you love god more. 
• You feel that gratitude is another form of worship.
• Feeling thankful teaches you how to regulate and control your thoughts.
• It presents you with a posture of humbleness and modesty.
• Reduces anxiety and removes envious feelings.
• Practicing appreciativeness reorients and rejuvenates your heart. 

Gratitude Incites

I know, when you begin, it may not be easy to realize the stuff to be grateful for, especially in tough times. Here are some evident gratitude journals emboldened by Life Coach Ritu Singal that will help you while running through and expressing gratitude.

• Modest delights. Simply think of some everyday activities that bring joy to you. A glass of juice, a cup of coffee, a cozy night suit, a soothing song, or anything that brings pleasure can be rejoiced and appreciated. 
• Contented memories. It’s not essential that you need to think of present stuff or coming ones only, you can recollect any positive memories from your past. Any happy events, memorable moments, or days when you felt extremely joyful are worth feeling thankful for. 
• Valuable persons. Your family, friends, or colleagues can have a considerable role in your happiness. Think about the persons who loved and supported you through your tough times and who have been with you in your good as well as bad times and be thankful for having them in your life. 
• Mother nature. The surroundings and nature around us are full of immense exquisiteness. Think of something from nature that attracts you or that is simply enjoyable for you. The early morning sun rays, lovely flowers, the first bloom of the spring, running water, the smell of soil after rain, moon and stars in the sky, or whatever, and be thankful for nature.
• Kind deeds. Just remember if somebody has done something nice for you, be it small or big, feel grateful for that and it will boost your positive emotions. Similarly, if you have done a kind act toward someone, celebrate that experience and appreciate that you have carried a kind act.
• Achievements and successes. You must have accomplished various things, mastered skills, and proved your abilities. Highlight that success and be proud of that, it will make you feel good about yourself and lift your self-esteem. 
• Peaceful and relaxing moments. Be obliged for the moments when you feel relaxed and peaceful and the things that make you tranquil. I am not saying you need to remember incredible moments or some extra special ones, just small moments are enough to express gratitude for them. 

The Wonderful Connection Between Gratitude and Happiness

Paradoxically, being in quest of happiness itself can make you unhappy. When you are running behind happiness your main emphasis is on what you lack, always chasing delight makes you realize that you don’t have it. However, when you stop seeking and running behind pleasure and start cultivating gratitude for what you have- you will experience greater happiness. As I said earlier, organic food and healthy mind, likewise, gratitude and happiness.

So, after reading it all, you must be clear about how gratitude can boost your happiness. I know, happiness may appear deceptive sometimes, particularly when you are going through difficult situations. But surprisingly, there is a reachable path toward bliss, contentment, and positive- Gratitude. Many studies proved that gratefulness is linked to every kind of goodie-goodie including happiness, satisfaction, health, and well-being. 

When I was in the worst phase of my life, I lost my partner, our financial condition was not good, and our business was suffering. Even after being a spiritual and positive person, it was quite difficult to think about positive stuff and the goodness around me. But after a while, When I saw my daughters, I realized that goodness is still here. I have to make everything right just like before for my kids and myself. So, it may be quite difficult to appreciate the good stuff in your life but it is not impossible. And once you begin with it, you are on the right path. 

Concluding words:

Chasing happiness may not bring you delight but focusing on the reasons you have to be happy and connecting with goodness can make significant changes. Being content doesn’t mean you will be happy all the time, happiness flows. However, being deliberately and uninterruptedly thankful for your life and what you possess develops a positive outlook and offers you a simple route toward more contentment. 

Unquestionably, gratitude is a prodigious emotion to nurture. Making it a habit can make it an incredible trait. Remember that regular run-throughs and patience are the major elements of our intentions and goals in life. 

So what are you waiting for? Start counting your blessings and be grateful for them.