Do you have a fear of the phrase “family and marriage counselling”? You may wonder, “Why is it necessary? Do you picture a group of family members fighting in front of a therapist? Do you feel the goosebumps of it? I, Ritu Singal, am here to help you break free of your patterns.
No, marriage counselling is not what you imagine it to be. Marriage and family counselling is about addressing family problems directly. It is about finding solutions that tie the family together. You may wonder, “Why is it necessary? How will it benefit us?” Let me, Ritu Singal, show you why and dive deeper into it.
You visit the doctor when you are sick. You go to the gym to build up the mental muscle of your body. You eat right and healthy to keep your body clean.
Yet you feel ashamed when you have to go and heal your mind with a therapist. Yet you don’t challenge the negative aspects and thoughts in your relationships and build a muscle of resilience. Yet you don’t practice and engage in the art of healthy relationships.
Family Counselling: Not Just for Broken Families
Healthy relationships is what keeps families together. But what happens when there are cracks in this relationship? Who saves whom?
In an office context, the HR or sometimes the manager handles the issue.
Who handles it in your case? Is the HR in your family biased?
Every family faces challenges, but not all families have the answers. Are you still a “what will people say person’’?
Do you ever think to go and find solutions for your family? What blinds you from actually taking decisions in your family?
People usually have this misconception that family counselling is for broken families.In actuality, however, family counselling is for actual families. Real families have disputes, occasional rifts, different stressors from different members, and of course, the occasional awkward talk.
However, dysfunctional patterns are on a scale of 1 to 10. In some families, there are more dysfunctional patterns, and others less.
What does dysfunction consist of?
Physical abuse
Verbal abuse
Sexual abuse
Drug problems
Alcohol or any sort of addiction problem
So what is family counselling? Is it here to prove who is right and who is wrong? We are here to get into the root of your problems Dysfunctional family patterns have several different types of people:
Perpetrator – The one who creates the chaos
Enabler – The one who enables the chaos
Peacemaker – The one who ensures peace in the family
Scapegoat – The child blamed for all of the dysfunction
Lost child – The child who is the most unseen in the family
Golden child – The overly pampered child
When one understands these patterns, one can figure out a way to break free from them. But it isn’t easy, as everybody wants to play a role in blaming others. That’s when it gets confusing and harsher towards each other.
The goal of family counselling is not to tell who is at fault but rather how to nip the evil in the bud.
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Why Choose Me, Ritu Singal?
I grew up with a dysfunctional mother who had a mental illness since I was born. She would keep getting fits and throwing rage tantrums.
My husband, the late Vikas, too had his own mental health issues. He was aggressive, defensive, and because of that, he committed suicide due to a business loss of 50–60 crores.
My children, who were facing the aftermath of my late husband’s cheating and aggressiveness, suffered the brunt and I saw them having panic attacks.
From that time, I decided that I wouldn’t cry or bend over backwards. I learnt business from scratch. Then I turned the 50–60 crore loss into becoming an award-winning entrepreneur in 2011. I have mentioned this in my book I Decided Not to Cry. I discovered life coaching too and i went on to become to a certified john mawell life coach Family counselling and more What I have noticed as a life coach is that If you go to see, in every family, an apple doesn’t fall far from its tree. Children not only inherit the genetic DNA of their parents but also the mental DNA.
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We all have learned behaviours—even if you say you aren’t as rude or as cruel as your family, you still have some similar mannerisms. The way you perceive and approach situations. The way you get panic attacks just like your mom does.
Most of the time, you don’t realise the behaviours you have adopted from people around you.
Expected Outcomes
In 90 %+ of my cases, families have come together!
During family therapy, we examine, teach problem-solving, validate each one’s emotions, explore each one’s roles, pinpoint toxic behavioural patterns and ways to manage them, understand the roles in each dynamic, teach anger management, and encourage effective communication. Each session is tailored to give maximum benefits.
You don’t need to be utterly shattered to go for counselling. You just have to be real. To know more, visit my website
