We all love getting the latest iPhone, the newest car, or the trendiest app, but how often do we update ourselves? We don’t put in nearly as much effort. That’s what being the best version of yourself is really about—constantly evolving and upgrading to the highest version of who you can be.
But here’s the real question: Why are you striving for this? Are you doing it for validation from others, or are you doing it for yourself? What’s truly driving your self-improvement?
Many people chase success just to prove others wrong. In the process, they fall into cycles of self-loathing, pity, procrastination, or even self-sabotage due to external pressures.
Motivational videos and even celebrity speeches often glorify this mindset, making it seem like pain and struggle are the only paths to success. But this is a cry of performance—a deeply rooted fear of failure and a constant need for external validation. No matter how much you achieve, you won’t feel truly happy because you’re operating from this fear-driven mindset.
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- Compare yourself to others constantly
- Feel like you’re never good enough unless you’re productive
- Fear failure so much that it controls your actions
This often stems from childhood experiences—being compared, criticized, or put in situations beyond your control. Maybe you were only praised when you were productive, shaping how you see success today.
But true greatness comes when you break free from this mindset and start living for yourself.
That’s where I come in.
I’m Ritu Singal—a life coach, business coach, and entrepreneur managing three companies, while still making time for my family and self-care.
If I can do it, so can you. Let me help you train your mindset, break free from the cry of performance, and unlock the best version of yourself.
Are you ready to upgrade YOU?
Being the Best Version of Yourself Isn’t Just About Your Career
Let me share with you the story of a woman who found herself lost in marriage.
She was a smart, highly educated woman who initially had a beautiful relationship with her husband. They were in love, and everything seemed perfect. But over time, as their responsibilities grew, she had kids, had to take care of her extended family, and became consumed with managing the household, her newborn babies, and her extended family. This eventually led her to lose herself in the process, neglecting self-care.
She was expected to put the needs of others above her own, and she accepted her fate. At first, she didn’t seem to mind. She became the self-sacrificing woman she always was. But as time passed, she realized something was missing.
Conflicts began arising from small disagreements, and she found her voice fading. Being the best version of herself meant that she had to find her voice, find time for herself, and grow.
Some women react quickly, understanding what happened and fighting back. Others need time. Trauma is complex, and it has various biological, psychological, and situational factors.
Through counseling and personal growth programs, she started rediscovering herself. It wasn’t an overnight transformation—it took months of rigorous psychological techniques and deep self-reflection. Change doesn’t happen instantly, but she was determined.
Over time, she regained her confidence and finally decided to become the best version of herself.
She started earning and taking care of her financial needs. Even her husband, whose love had faded under the weight of responsibilities, began noticing her again and stopped taking her time and love for granted. But this change didn’t happen easily. At first, she had to face even more resistance, taunts, and emotional challenges from her family.
Eventually, her efforts paid off. She stood up for herself, set boundaries, and prioritized self-respect. She started to see that love was important, but it wasn’t as important as self-love. When you put yourself first, others start valuing you too.
The Key Lesson: Love Yourself First
Love is important, but being the best version of yourself is essential too. Whether you’re a teenager, a mother, a father, or a grandparent, becoming the best version of yourself can take you places and help you receive the love and respect you deserve.
True love begins with self-respect. If you learn how to love yourself, the world will love you too. However, there will be days when you don’t like yourself, and that’s okay. But never forget to love and respect yourself.
If you find yourself struggling with self-love, you can take my counseling sessions. Let’s work together to unlock the best version of YOU.
