In today’s fast-paced world, we have somehow started believing that it is natural to get stressed. Well, you cannot run out of stress, especially when so much is happening around you. You can, however, learn how to manage your stress in efficient ways.
We often consider stress as a way in which our body reacts to certain situations. Stress is not limited only to a reaction. It also acquires our mental and emotional well-being. The thoughts and feelings of stress can be felt throughout the body.
A young client once visited me. He was in his mid-30s. The guy had a habit of overthinking and stressing over things that haven’t even happened yet. He would stress so much before interviews, meetings, parties, and almost any life activity that he undertook.
He had to overthink and stress a lifestyle. He thought it was natural to respond to work situations with stress. He gradually started seeing changes and effects on his health. He started getting sick more often. Moreover, he established headaches and faint feelings.
He decided to consult his doctor. All the stress and anxiety were a natural part of his lifestyle until he was hit hard with reality. The guy developed diabetes, only in his mid-30s. In fact, no one in his family has ever had this disease. It was this day when he realized that stress is like a disease that further leads to more diseases. He decided to get stress management counselling from me, where his journey of recovery began.
Today, he is doing well at work. His health is well-maintained, and he is happy inside out.
What is stress?
Stress is a feeling of tension. It can be physical or emotional depending on the situation you are in. Stress can be evoked from any event. It can be at work, at home, with my wife, or anything else. Generally, stress comes out as frustration, anger, or nervousness. It is a way the body reacts to a demanding situation. Stress may seem beneficial in some situations but proves detrimental in the long run.
Signs that show you take the stress
Stress in certain situations or for short times is normal. For example, the stress of examinations in students, or meeting a deadline, or job interviews, etc. However. Regular stress over petty issues is a cause of concern.
The symptoms of stress can be seen in the physical, emotional, and even mental health of a person. A significant impact of stress is felt on mental health because by the time we recognize it, it is already too late.
Physical symptoms of stress: The symptoms that can be seen in your physical health are sleeplessness, headaches, body ache, digestive issues, fatigue, and even breakouts on the skin. Your immunity decreases, and you fall sick more often.
Mental symptoms of stress: The effect of stress on mental health are severe. These include anxiety, depression, or suicidal thoughts. It may even cause a person to intake substance abuse or addictions.
Emotional symptoms of stress: Feelings of anger, frustration, helplessness, irritability, anger, and apathy are the emotional symptoms of stress. You may not be able to concentrate well or rest peacefully. A feeling of insecurity and burnout runs through your body.
Now that you know the symptoms, it is time you check for them in your life. If you feel you experience these symptoms regularly, you should talk to a counsellor for help.
What are the common causes of stress?
A person who remains stressed for the most part of the day does not need a special cause for the same. However, stress can be caused by different people for different reasons. The situation does not need to be necessarily negative to trigger stress.
Today, our lives have become very complicated. We are all in the race of achieving something or the other thing. The fear of coming second in the race haunts us. It creates stress and anxiety even in young people.
Regular life situations like the fear of losing your job stress you. On the other hand, you get stressed when you have to join a new job. You might be stressed due to a toxic relationship, but you’ll also be stressed about getting a breakup or divorce. Family issues like property problems, interpersonal relationships, or children’s problems are other common causes of stress.
One new and widely spread cause of stress is social media. People often compare their lives with the lives of others, only to stress themselves. They take it to their heart and mind when others do better than them.
People now think that stress is a part of their life, and it won’t go anywhere. Even if we believe that stress can never end, we can always learn ways to manage this stress to mitigate it.
Self Stress Management
We all carry various stresses throughout our day. Family issues, workplace issues, college issues, or marital issues. All the situations accumulate stress in our heads. However, here are a few tips that can help.
One of the most common causes of stress in today’s time is the habit of multitasking. People take up many works together and then stress about not being able to complete them. Multitasking has its own benefits but at the expense of our health. Avoid multitasking if you stress out easily.
Lighten the burden
Many times we have too much to do, which makes us stressed. We are all caught up in activities that are tremendously affecting our mental health. An important step to avoid this can be taking a step back. It is ok to sometimes shrug off some responsibility from your shoulders. You can ask for help from others if you need it.
Almost every person first starts work and then plans on how to execute it. However, this approach is wrong. You should always plan out things before and then start working. Determine your goal, chalk out a plan, divide time and slots to work without stress.
Tough Time Don’t Last Long
Even if you are in a stressful situation right now, you need to understand that tough times do not last long. Your business, family, or your health might not be doing very well right now, but stressing over it will not solve your problem. So just accept and work hard to move ahead of stress.
Manage Your Finances
Most of the time, the cause of stress is money. Too much money or too little money, both cause a lot of stress in humans. To avoid stress-related to finances. You should ensure you have some cash in hand, save in savings, insurance and a little investment. If you do not have enough money to manage all these finances, then you should work hard to earn it and not stress about it.
When to seek help for stress?
Even Though most of you believe stress is natural, let me discuss the unhealthy life practices that people use to manage their stress. Most mechanisms to control stress, only further run things even more.
Some potentially detrimental coping mechanisms are alcohol addiction, smoking, illicit drug use, gambling, shopping, eating, or self-harm.
Chronic stress should not be left untreated. The symptoms may be small right now but can take a significant turn with time.
It is where stress management works. Stress management aims to identify an unhealthy practice and replace it with a healthier option. Stress is a problem that feeds on itself. The more you ignore it, the more difficult it will get to cope with it.
Some situations where you should seek help include:
Stress has started impacting your physical health. You get sick more frequently or catch diseases from others.
These effects of stress have started interfering with your life, dominating it.
Your stress is not only affecting you but others as well.
You get highly angry at the office or in school.
You are fearful and uncertain about the future.
You keep unrealistic expectations of yourself.
Why seek our stress management counselling?
Stress is something everyone experiences many people believe they can cope with stress on their own without seeking external help. However, being a Life Coach, I have seen many people come to me to seek counselling when they have reached a peak phase.
One of my employees’ lives changed when I decided to counsel him for stress management. He was highly qualified and very skilled in his profession. However, he was quite introverted. So much so that he would hardly talk to anyone.
He used to think no one liked him or understood him. He felt his abilities were not recognized or respected by his fellow employees. All these thoughts and tears disrupted his mental peace and he got depressed.
I noticed that his level and quality of work started declining. I decided to help him out to overcome stress and give his best at work. I only made a slight change in his routine by asking him to add a little smile to his face every day.
I also further helped him boost his confidence and self-belief. I could see a tremendous difference in his work performance. Not only did he get promoted for great work, but also overcame his depression with a smile on his face.
Every time I ask my clients why they didn’t get counselled early, they say they thought it’ll go away. Well, no, it doesn’t go away on its own. It needs dedication and guidance to manage stress.
In my stress management counselling, I make sure I help clients using a blend of different therapies and activities. I dig deep to find major causes and triggers of stress.
With the use of innovative and revolutionary techniques, I have helped many clients get rid of their old habits.
Not only do I teach how you can manage your stress, but also provide ways and ideas to channelize your energy into something fruitful.
I had a client once who came for stress management coaching. While counselling her, I realized she was passionate about dance. It was the only thing that she could do without stressing. In that activity, she would forget everything else.
I started helping her to channelize her energy more into the activities that are good for her. In fact, she started taking her dancing skills professionally by joining a dance class. Today, she is a national level dancer.
Professional help can be highly beneficial to you. It provides a platform for you to discuss your fears, worries, and we can help you identify the main causes of stress in your life.
If you are finding it hard to cope with stress or if stress has started interfering in your routine activities, it is time you get the best counselling. Contact us today to learn how to reduce daily stress.