Have you ever wondered that when you are around some people you are full of life and energy and laughter, while around some other people, you seem to have a feeling of dullness and heaviness? Have you tried to find that it is because of those people or those places or simply because you were exhausted? It is probably all three. Yes, places and people also can be tiring and draining or can inject a new lease of life into you. Take, for instance, a place of worship, where you feel connected to everyone and with yourself and are full of hope and positivity. And on the other hand, taking a cemetery or a hospital have negative vibes, where most people start to question the meaning of their own lives.
Just like places and circumstances, certain people can be very stressful, draining, and have a great negative influence on your life and work. Human beings are social animals and thrive in and strive for social connections and social confirmations for their happiness and well-being. Therefore, our happiness depends largely on the nature of the relationships we have with our family members, friends, co-workers, neighbours, and other people we come into contact with regularly. People with negative and pessimistic attitudes do not just slide down a rabbit hole themselves, they pull the people down
the people around them as well. And it is not always their fault! Neuro-physicians and psychiatrists have identified the roles of certain hormonal and molecular imbalances in parts of human brains on which they have no control. Many times, that is not the case and is a matter of attitude towards life. It is the latter type of people we need to look out for and shield ourselves from as “you cannot wake up a person pretending to sleep”. As for the former, medical help must be arranged with the sympathy and care that they deserve.
How to handle negative people?
What is it that you can or should do when faced with such a person who drains your energy and life out of you? Are there any ways and means to help you how to handle negative people? There are a few things, actually, that anyone with reasonable practice and firmness can do to bring an end to all this. A reputed and well-known Life Coach Ritu Singal says that “most toxic people are like vectors of contagious diseases and in this case the disease being the negative vibes.”
Pessimism and negativity can be contagious you may find yourself infected with stress, anger, and burden. Life Coach Ritu Singal stresses that when you are surrounded by toxic people and do not deal with them quickly, you may fall victim to them and start feeling fidgety and restless. She says that it affects your sleep and balance of mind causing tiredness and irritation. Anxiety and depression may become your permanent partners that is not what you wanted in the first place.
Life Coach Ritu Singal once had a reputed physician as a client. He attended a few sessions as part of a personality development workshop organized for doctors by his hospital. When he learned about the effects of negativity and its presence in hidden forms, he contacted Ms. Singal for personal sessions. Once he was assured of a safe space and confidentiality, he narrated his grief of not being able to manage his practice, research, career goals, and even family
On probing further, she found that his wife was a very toxic person and has curtailed his mind-space beyond any point of return. She used to call him at all times in the office, even when he was in consultation, and would not let him put down his phone. At home, she would continuously harass him in front of his own family and would make him come to tears. The physician was broken and could not gather any self-esteem or strength to face his fears and the reason for it. Despite being a doctor himself, he was afraid of seeking help from fellow doctors for it.