Family Counselling: To improve the interpersonal relationships
Many people do not know the value of interpersonal relationships in a family. Interpersonal relationships are not limited to social events or people outside the family. Interpersonal relationships have many characteristics.
It is very crucial to maintain good interpersonal relationships within the family. Family is a closely knitted bond. People are emotionally attached to a family.
However, the lack of efficient communication can sometimes lead to confusion and distance among family members. In today’s time, I have witnessed that families are becoming smaller. People avoid the idea of living in a joint family. They are happy and content living with just their kids.
One of the main reasons for this soreness is the lack of communication and inefficient interpersonal relationships. Many clients who visit me discuss many family disputes whose root cause is soar interpersonal relationships among family members.
Once while I was on tour to a different city, I met a young girl. She came to meet me out of the crowd. I asked her how she was, and she said she was doing good.
While we were talking about general issues, a fantastic conversation started between us. I asked the young girl if she has friends. To this, she told me how she and her cousin sister were like best friends. They were too content with each other that she never felt the need of making friends.
I asked her if her sister was accompanying her, but the glee on her face vanished. She told me how their fathers were brothers and had a big fight. After this, their families parted ways.
The interpersonal relationship between their families shattered to the extent that the girl was not allowed to talk or meet her sister. I felt sorry for the girl, but being a life coach, I encounter various clients who go through such family situations each day.
What are the interpersonal relationships in families?
Humans, throughout their lives for many interpersonal relationships. There are different types of interpersonal relationships that we form with other people.
Interpersonal relationships with family are one of them. Interpersonal relationships have many characteristics; it includes caring for other family members, being compassionate, honest, flexible, accepting, and patient.
Family is related by blood or a binding factor where individual roles and relationships A person needs to learn new skills and qualities to grow their relationships within the family.
5 skills required for interpersonal relationships
- Compassionate: Compassion is an important quality required for healthy interpersonal relationships in families. You need to learn and understand the sufferings and pain of the people around you. Many times, people are only concerned about their issues. However, in a family, you need to be compassionate for each one around you.
- Acceptance: Second quality that you need to have for efficient interpersonal relationships is acceptance. It would be best if you accepted the people around you. Sometimes you might not like the other person, but you should learn to take them just the way they are. Always expecting others to change for you will never make you happy. It is better to accept other members and stay satisfied.
- Adjusting: A family is made of many individuals. Not all family members need to be acceptable to you. However, you have to be more adjusting and accepting. Each person is different from another; we need to learn to change with our family.
- Honesty: A family is a divine tie of bonds. Dishonesty or disloyalty ruins relationships. In a family, people are tied by blood. The members of the family are emotionally attached and are ready to help whenever required. Being honest with family members is crucial. Honesty helps relationships sustain.
- Patience: When we live in a family with other members, we need to form healthy relations with them. We cannot remain stubborn on our decisions always. Living with a family means being more patient. Sometimes you’ll have to do things that your family is happy with, even if it does not make you happy. Patience under challenging situations will benefit you more than anything.
How to know if you need to improve interpersonal relationships?
Many people do not understand if they need to improve their family relations or not. People remain hesitant when it comes to counselling. They don’t want to accept that there’s something wrong.
Here are some pointers to check if you need to improve your interpersonal relations or not.
- Do you feel left out or isolated within your family?
- Do you think you are too soft and others take advantage of your kindness?
- Have you found yourself regretting the things you said in front of your family members?
- Do you wish to be more assertive?
- Are you often misunderstood by fellow members and expect they could get you better?
- Are you unable to form deep relationships with any other family member?
- Is it so that you cannot say “no” to anyone who comes to you for help?
- Do you pretend to be someone you are not among other members of your family?
- Are you having trouble with the whole family or one member in particular?
Well, the answers to these questions will let you know if you have real issues or not. If more than half of your answers were “yes”, then you should consider working upon the improvement of your interpersonal relationships.
Why is family counselling crucial for interpersonal relationships?
Humans are tied with blood to the people they call family. It is always said that a person learns most things from family. From how to eat to how to live, everything is taught by the family members.
We interact with other people and other members of the family in many different contexts of life, like running errands, going to school, work, or college. Each one of us expects to fit-in family and other social places.
As humans, we prefer being liked by others for our survival. In this race of being selected, we get motivated to cultivate healthy and supportive relationships. Be it in family, love life, or friends, interpersonal relationships play a critical role.
Sometimes we do not receive the kind of positive vibes that we expect. We feel that other people do not like us or that we do not make any difference in their lives. You may even start feeling misunderstood, isolated, ignored, and useless. Ignoring these signs is very wrong. With time they become a source of discouragement. It can hurt us a lot and make us struggle to get along well with other people.
Counselling can help you improve your interpersonal relationships. You’ll turn out to be precisely the kind of person you want through family counselling.
Why our interpersonal relationship counselling?
My interpersonal counselling is designed especially for the people who feel they are unable to form efficient interpersonal relationships. I use innovative methods and tools to bring the best out of you.
My counselling for interpersonal relationships can help you to:
- Build closer and highly fulfilling relationships with family members and others.
- Understand your role in maintaining and forming healthy interpersonal relationships with others.
- Communicate better and more efficiently to form stronger bonds.
- Learn which relationships to nourish and which not.
- Learn qualities and skills like acceptance, adjustment, and compassion.
- Respectfully establish your requirements and boundaries.
If you feel your family relations or other interpersonal relationships are drowning, you should try therapy. Throughout my experience of life coaching, I have helped many clients improve themselves and their relationships.
Feel free to contact us and book your counselling session today for better interpersonal relationships tomorrow.