Each person holds so much power within themselves that needs to be let out. Sometimes they just need a little nudge, a little direction, a little support, a little coaching, and the greatest things can happen.” — Pete Carrol
With so much pressure, obligations and responsibilities on us, life’s indeed hard. That’s why we often feel so overwhelmed and anxious. As the weeks, months and years pass, this pressure builds up and piles on top of us, adding more weight to the shoulders that can’t seem to bear another ounce of it.
Regardless, we carry on and face everything that life throws at us. And suffer. The quality of our personal lives declines, good habits falter, and we retreat into the comforts of the status quo. That’s why a good life coach is so important. We become so ingrained and fixed in our ways that it’s hard to see it from a fresh perspective. It’s difficult to understand the possibilities that exist out when we’re so used to being within our “safe” zone.
As humans, we often tend to evade doing what we fear. Ironically, it is these dreaded acts only that lead us to realize our goals and to our dreams becoming a reality. A life coach, as a helpful guide, works with you to help you overcome those barriers, thereby enabling you to achieve your life goals. Most great athletes work with a coach who guides them, works with them to strategize and sees them finally reach their coveted goals. Ditto a good life coach, who unlocks your potential and collaborates with you to enable you to achieve your goals. A life coach can play multiple roles in our lives -they unlock our dormant potential, let us find our best selves and perform the role of a motivator, partner and strategist.
Quite often, many among us, while facing a major crisis, tend to turn to our elders, family members and relatives whom we believe to be wise and prudent. With alot of life experience on their side, they seem to be in an ideal condition to provide us guidance and mentoring in those tough times. Even I, being a life coach, keep on getting such requests from many of my clients, who would like to counsel their relatives regarding the problems they are facing in their lives. Notwithstanding their good-intentioned advice and a genuine desire to help, there are two major drawbacks to this approach:
- Their own life experience in different domains is quite limited, and therefore, they can’t handle the immense range of issues they need to address.
- They are emotionally attached to the ones whom they would like to counsel, which proves to be a significant hindrance. Being emotionally attached, they are unable to separate the personal and the professional and are unable to view and analyze their problems in a detached, objective manner and offer unbiased counsel, thereby creating room for biases. Consequently, whatever advice they give is going to be coloured by emotional considerations.
In view of these limitations, it is best to consult a qualified, experienced life coach only to help you with such problems.
The way that life coaches work is similar everywhere. They ask you the right questions to enable breakthroughs to create a paradigm shift in life. But while doing so, they aren’t authoritative at all and therefore, don’t dictate you what to do. Instead, they work as motivators and partners in your success and evolve a plan with your active and complete involvement and nudge you to work towards these goals.
So, a life coach isn’t just a mentor or a coach in the most basic sense. Rather, a life coach is someone who’s there for you through life’s difficult and challenging times to guide you and help you see things differently, refine your approach so that you can achieve your loftiest dreams.
How life coaching works
Whether you are trying to rise the professional ladder or are raring to become an entrepreneur, the truth is: We all are in need of a bit support, self-reflection and continual personal development. However, even in the best possible scenarios, we have some blind spots that prevent us from seeing the whole picture and our thoughts, habits and behaviors hinder our growth. Ditto for friends and family. While our loved ones be having the best intentions, they often cannot properly analyze and give actionable advice. Enter the life coach, who works with you to enrich your life:
Identifying, prioritizing goals
Often, for many among us, the central problem is not a lack of ambition but of clarity. Going through everyday life, we are caught in a rat race, chasing a vision of success handed down to us, instead of a vision one created intentionally. Thus, it’s no surprise that so many of us spend their lives doing all “the right things,” i.e. going to college, working in a job and marrying, only to realize one fine day that they are unhappy.
But by working with a life coach, you connect to yourself more fully, letting yourself create the life you want, based on your own standards. That may imply becoming an entrepreneur, having a side business or embarking on a passion in your free time. A life coach helps you connect to yourself so that you can identify and prioritize these new goals.
Transitioning to a new identity
Life coaches can be of great help during times of great transitions e.g. career changes, divorce etc. A life coach helps you remain grounded in the midst of such huge changes. One of the biggest reasons why a change is so difficult is that it challenges the stories we have held close to our hearts for so long. Questions like Who am I without this marriage or relationship? can be scary to face alone, but a life coach can reframe the narrative so as to ready you up for an empowering experience.
Support and partnership
A life coach gives support and comfort by challenging you with care to set your goals courageously, with conviction and accountability. The life coaching relationship is an open partnership between a client and the coach, where authenticity, connection and intimacy are the keys to success for which both partners must pull their weight together.
A coach doesn’t serve as a yes man or healer; they reflect back to the client their potential to express inner brilliance in reality. With regular interaction, the two create an ongoing relationship that the client can rely on for support.
Still skeptical? Worry not, read on to find out!
Benefits of Life Coaching
Clarity in life
Among the major benefits of life coaching, this one deserves the top spot. As a practicing life coach, I have found it to be among the topmost reasons behind the clients approaching me. If you believe that we all know what we want from this life, you may be mistaken. A great many people had too many opportunities right before but they often take decisions that do not let them move towards goals. A life coach helps you decide priorities and inspires you to contemplate about life so that you can decide on the most important things you should bring about. Gaining absolute clarity can enable you to execute the tasks speedily as focus is the key to achieving your goals in life.
Peace of Mind
Our life is so full of many bitter experiences and negative events and when we can’t share it, frustration, anger and tension begin to fester. A supportive family and friends can be helpful no doubt, but you may feel uncomfortable sharing certain feelings with them. That’s when a coach comes on the scene to work with you to create a new focus and a positive strategy to get you to your goals.
A life coach is forever willing to listen to and understand you. Besides, they are never judgmental; rather, they encourage you to confide in them so that you share and bare all to help them work through your blocks to let you achieve your goals.
Accomplishing our goals gives us a sense of fulfillment and gives us further motivation to improve our performance. But, many people, unable to accomplish their goals, often experience a void, which demotivates them from trying further. Life coaches are keen to know about your passions and work with you towards making them a reality. They push you further to celebrate small personal successes, which can help you achieve bigger goals.
Being a life coach, I often get to meet clients who constantly complain of running short of time. I can empathize with them but I need to work with them to make them realize the unrealistic nature of their perceptions as everyone is blessed with 24 hours a day. All that they need to do is think of their time in a very different manner and practice some proven time management techniques to make the most of their time and strike a balance between work and life, between the personal and the professional,
Time is ALL that you have; you can’t borrow, buy or loan it! In retrospect, people often wish they had more time but the truth remains: nobody gets more time than anyone else. People tend to think that they can achieve things on their own and in reality, they really can. But how fast do you want to achieve it? While doing it all alone, you burden yourself with additional responsibilities and things tend to go out of control sometimes, making you lose your focus.
As a navigator, a life coach assesses your present situation and work with you to help you get the desired results. The coach works like an accountability partner in your efforts and you can see a collective effort geared towards your goals.
Acting on misguided financial decisions may land you in a big soup at a personal and professional level. Many people often do not analyze their financial situation and make unprofitable investments. Such repeated financial failures can lead to aimlessness and apprehension about the next move.
A life coach knows that life is a glorious result of good, meticulous planning. Life coaches provide you with an action plan, having a step-wise approach to follow and align your financial goals with your life goals. It can enhance your affordability level and prosperity in life.
Follow your dreams
We all dream and this aspiration of a better future lets us live our life more fully and goads us to bear hardships in pursuit of our goals. But, quite often, these dreams are ambitious, which makes us doubtful of their achievability. Getting validation and encouragement for our dreams is a most enriching benefit of working with a life coach. A life coach can separate your professional and personal lives and understand your aspirations from an objective viewpoint. It can put you on the right path so that you go ahead confidently to make the first big move.
The blockades in our paths limit our progress and we often get detached from our goals altogether. In this process, action – the only way to overcome obstacles – takes a backseat. A life coach lubricates positive changes and encourages you to become courageous in confronting life’s challenges. A life coach helps you identify those hurdles and when you acknowledge them, you develop a different attitude towards these challenges. Now, you can focus your energy and time on an effective plan of action to move forward in life.
Throughout life, we experience joys, sorrows, hardships, challenges and accomplishments. Cultivating a different approach to them can help us see them with wisdom in a new light. We can harvest the true benefits of having a life coach by developing an attitude of looking at hardships as challenges. This change in our viewpoint can bring about significant consequences for us.
Challenges tend to change us and lead to personal growth. Consequently, we begin loving challenges as a route to gaining greater freedom, wealth and happiness. It keeps us focused and when it is combined with action, we are set to have amazing results.
Freedom from Anxiety
We often get overwhelmed by stress and anxiety – major obstacles in our life journey. They can lead to poor self-esteem, a lack of confidence and nervousness etc. A life coach helps you accept the fact that you need to live your life rather than waste your energy on stress and anxiety. Life coaches know well about the inevitability of stress in life and work with you to find ways to control stress so that you feel revitalized.
Navigating tough times
At the time of tackling challenges, we often others’ support as it makes us feel better. Handling problems single-handedly for long can increase the chances of committing mistakes. Life coaches make you realize the fact that handling life challenges is important for you to get wisdom.
A life coach delves deeper to discover the problematic areas and with constant support, helps you get rid of these problems. Quite frequently, you may not be looking for a solution; rather, you may just want to know if you are moving on the right path. A life coach can identify your limitations so that you enjoy peace of mind and gain the strength and confidence to look forward.
Nothing is as powerful as the idea whose time has come! – Victor Hugo
Among the many benefits of life coaching, this one holds a unique importance of its own. Whatever great achievements mankind has made, regardless of the domain they belong to, were once just an idea in one’s mind.
An idea is the building block of inventions, development and careers and can transform the world in unrecognizable ways. A life coach can help you achieve transformation in life by offering the right questions to discover your key ideas. A life coach can help you find those ideas, which are in line with your needs and unique traits. Life coaching can nurture innovation and creativity and also generate good ideas, which can open the gates to many opportunities.
Many domains of our life e.g. career, family, social circle and health warrant constant attention on our part. We have to assume and play multiple roles and start facing problems when a particular area consumes most of our energy. As a result of this problem, we begin to look for balance in life so that we can give equal focus to all our roles.
A life coach understands fairly well that an imbalance among these key areas may create complications. Therefore, they guide you about acknowledging your priority areas like career, finances, health, entertainment and ensure that you evolve a balance so that you achieve positivity and satisfaction.
The singular benefit of having a life coach is that they inspire you to believe in getting the right result with the right techniques. Our behavioural patterns may prevent us from living life fully but a life coach can give you opportunities for self-discovery and make you realize that the only way to progress is action. This way, you can easily quit the habit of procrastination and become accountable for your own doings. Such personal growth can be made much easier with a life coach.
Purpose of Life
Finding the purpose of one’s life is perhaps the most significant among the benefits of life coaching. Very often, we are easily distracted in the absence of a clear idea about what we want from our life. Life coaches always ask you the most significant posers – “What’s the purpose of your life? What is the most significant to you and why?” And your answers to these questions have a potential for changing the course of your life.
Life coaches often meet people who may be unaware of the direction of their life owing to a lack of purpose. A meaningful purpose in life drives us to move on, accomplish tasks, learn from failures and achieve satisfaction from success.
A life coach can certainly bring about a change in our behaviour to bring positivity and inspiration in our life so that we seek more from it. They can motivate people to have self-belief and live a life of well-being and happiness. We often tend to forget that every person is a significant part of the universe and, if they contribute positively, the world would be a better place to live in. Life coaches can enable you to see your true self and make you realize the purpose of your life.
We would love to excel in our occupations and professions but frequently, we do not have the required confidence and vigour to step up and make a change. Many among us have limiting self-beliefs, which limit our opportunities for exploration and we tend to follow the examples set by others. In this manner, we tend to ignore the unique beauty and opportunities of our own personal life journey.
Life coaches remind us of our own uniqueness and emphasize that our aim is to set examples through our own successes and trials. They encourage us to become self-sufficient so that we follow our own path rather than others’ opinions let guide us. Thanks to this self-reliance, we can approach life with confidence and succeed on our own terms.
Have you ever seen a child closely, how freely and energetically they approach anything and everything? But over time, adults tend to lose this adventurous streak in life. Life coaches can introduce a big attitudinal change in our approach as their probing questions act as stimuli, which creates excitement to make us feel renewed.
Life coaches are experts at asking meaningful questions, which goad us to cultivate a different outlook towards life and awaken our creative impulses, which may be lying dormant inside us. As a result, you begin to feel as though life were an adventure again.